adam is doing so good it is amazing, but there is one problem....i am the only one in his life that sets boundraies on him. i am the only one that tells him no, makes him earn rewards rather then give him anything he wants to shut him up, makes him eat real food rather then fill him up with junk to keep him from whinning. i am afraid that adam will turn on me and hate me before long if his dad and worthless excuse for a mother doesnt get on the same page with me. if i were a 6 yr old and only had one person in my life that did not let me get my way on everything i would turn on them! i already see a change in adam. when his dad is at work or asleep (he works nights sleeps days) adam is so well behaved, he listens to me, he loves on me and i love on him. he plays well, he is polite, he eats well, no screaming, no tantrums, just a great boy, but when dad is within eye sight all bets are off. and adam has very litte to do with me when dad is around. after a visit with his mom he is completely out of control for days with his dad. he never tests me because he knows i am not going to put up with it. i had a little falling out with dad a few days ago about somethings, adam will refuse to eat a meal when dad is around, i stand my ground, meal BEFORE snack. he goes to dad and dad gives him whatever he wants. so i told dad that i need him to stop undoing what i have taught adam so now if adam starts worrying him over things he tells him to ask me...he wont tell him no...he has me do it. adam will hate me before it is over if he sontinues to think that i am the only one that says no to him. how do i make his dad understand that he has to tell adam no too? i have already told him that adam sees me as the bad guy when he does that but it hasnt stopped him from doing it...what do i do?
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