nooooooo, we all go thru a case of mourning when we get the dx. We all react/ and handle stress in a different way. Your reaction is perfectly reasonable. Things will get better! :)

You are having the same type of reacton I had, except I didn't have anyone else see it and i referred him myself for ECI and they said "he doesn't test well" and started intervention the next week. It took me a year to really wrap my brain around the whole thing, and then I really had to take charge and get the services he needs. Most important take care of yourself because you need to be strong for the long haul. We are here if you need to ask or chat

No but I am Aspergers and BP1 and lots more son is same and we are happy. I am brilliant clever creative gorgeous artistic and modest. To thy own self be true

Hi - I am new to this autism world myself but I can tell you everthing you are feeling is totally normal. You are not alone. The only comfort I can bring is that it does get better. I've talked with moms who's kids were diagnosed awhile ago and they have completely adjusted and feel like it's part of their life but not the only part. I can't wait to get there :) Stay strong -this is a great support network!

OMG!!! Do not listen to what other people are telling you.They do not walk in your shoes everyday. It is amazing what a mother can feel when it comes to her own children. I'm an author. There is a scetion in my autobiography about how other people just don't have a clue.Go with your gut and turst your "mommy instincts". Best wishes and please let us know what the doctors say.

Your not over-reacting.Its best to look at positive things.You can start working with him now to help him catch up.He is your gift from god and he will have special gifts that others dont have.I just talked to someone last night and their daughter was diagnosed as aspergers and it turned out she is a well gifted physcic at age 12.His storey about her was pretty amazing.Your son probably has very good visual skills.If hes not talking picture cards will get him started.My son was 3 and a half when he used his first card.Only until now two years later I see the dramatic effect pictures with words helps him.I even draw my own sometimes.it teaches him how to communicate that will hopefully develpoe into language.Im always willing to share!

oh my gosh you are not over reacting at all.
you have every right to feel what you feel. My son is 11 and i STILL have my moments.
A day at a time mom
((HUG)))))))))

You didnt do anything wrong.
Youre not feeling anything wrong.
Youre allowed to feel sad & angry.
Its just shock & a glimpse of what may be difficult times ahead

Andrew is the same wonderful little boy you had last week. Hes just going to have a harder row to hoe. Its great that hes being diagnosed so young. The earlier therapy starts the faster it works.

Just take it one day at a time & keep your chin up. Like I tell my DH, our Andrew is just going through some of the basics at 1/2 speed.

Thanks a million,I can tell you all just from being able to be able to express my feelings and knowing I have a place to turn,my feelings have actually changed dramatically!! I still get sad once in a while,usually when Andrew has an episode in public and soem snot gives a look or makes a comment...Ignorant people!! But I know that I can teach my children better and somehow this world is a better place because of it!! Thanks again guys!!

I felt just the same way. You're grieving, that's all. This part will pass, I think it's the hardest part. Just think, when ignorant people react negatively to your son, he's giving them a learning experience!! He's teaching them about austism My son has educated many, many people, and I honestly hope they are better for it. I'll never forget the time he got naked in church...

This is a typical reaction, but you are lucky that your kid is only 2 and he has a chance to be normal by the time he is 6 or 7 if he has a good therapy and loving support.

It's normal to feel that way. I remember when mine was almost 3 and the Dr. telling me he thinks he is Autistic, i was asking the Dr. what i did, asking him if it was my breastmilk, if it was the way i fed him, the things that i did. The fact is, it isn't us, and it isn't anything that we did, or didn't do, we have to face the fact that our child is special because God made him that way, and i've gotten used to it and wouldn't want him any other way now. You will get used to it, if he is, it just takes time to get over the initial shock :)

Absolutley not. It is heartbreaking ,and you have evry right to your feelings. All the mothers here have felt just like you - some still do.
We're here for you.

Keep in mind that while it may not seem like it at the moment, they do make progress. And when they are having a bad period, stop, and take a moment to think back to the begining and you will become comforted by how much progress they really have made. Sure at 6 my son still is challlenging at times, but then I think back to 2 1/2 and 3 1/2 and boy! he really is a different kid! Truely! It is amazing and uplifting to look back once in a while and remember all the things we have forgotten and put behind us! Chin up!

It took me 3 years to finally get a diagnosis for my son (lived in a country area with a doctor who believed it couldn't be autism because he was bright and interactive). When he was finally diagnosed, even though I had suspected it for a long time, I cried. I kept crying for 2 days straight, then on and off for 2 months. I still cry sometimes. It's normal. You're grieving for the future you thought you would have with this child. And honestly, this is the best place to deal with it! Nobody here will judge you, or blame you for your childs behaviour. In fact, when you tell us he had a meltdown in public and snotty people gave you wierd looks, we'll hate them with you! I've only been here a few days now, and I already feel a hundred percent better.