Asperger Syndrome Support Group

Asperger syndrome - also referred to as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger's, Aspergers or just AS - is one of five neurobiological pervasive developmental disorders (PDD), and is characterized by deficiencies in social and communication skills, normal to above normal intelligence, and standard language development.

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I have a beautiful 8 year old girl, that I agreed to take in after her being with her adopted parents since she was 10 months old. Before that, she was in 3 different foster homes, so she didnt have that bonding thing that is so important to a baby. Anyways, she was diagnosed with "mild retardation, Asbergers, OCD, and ADHD, although, I see no hyperactivity, but she does have the attention deficit disorder. I have tried to get help for this little girl, finding her a doctor that she will trust, and not get her mouth going at him, but being she is from out of state, and the fact she is sooo young, not many doctors will touch her. When I got her, she was on 11 pills a day, in which I did manage to get her off of, even if it was only because I couldnt get her meds filled here in California. She continued on 2 which seems to suit her very well. Without her meds, she doesnt sleep, and the very few times I might get her to sleep finally, she is up and awake only 2 or 3 hours later, and then wants to sleep the following day in school. I have tried to get her mental health services but being she has insurance, the only way I can get mental health to see her is to call the police and have her arrested!! No joke! Now if that wasnt obserd enough, when I found a pediatrician finally willing to take her, and that could prescribe the 2 meds that work very well, the doctor wanted to try her on something totally different! So for 2 weeks, I went through HELL with this child. Now I have loads of patience, but I dont care if you are a saint! to have your child screaming at you on a daily basis, hurting herself just to get attention, and physically harming her little brother because she can, you see your patients start going right out the window. I have called every resourse I could find to get some sort of help, support group, ideas, you name it! Seems all I get are excuses, so when I found this, I thought"hey! maybe someone here will know what I am going through and maybe has gone through it themselves and maybe has pushed through it" SO here I am, looking for a friend or 2 that might, if nothing else, just be a shoulder to cry on now and then, being I have no one to talk to.*L*
harry3333
harry3333
you might remind her that she can be sent away to a nasty place where no one will care about her
also that other children of her age dont behave as she does

I wonder if fear is at the basis of her bad behaviour
deleted_user
deleted_user
Her behaiour does seem very extreme. You obviously love this little girl very much otherwise I think you may have given up ages ago!!
Don't know what advice I can offer as it seems you've tried everything. Have you tried ignoring what she is doing when it is inappropriate and instead focusing on her little brother and showin her that with acceptable behaviour comes rewards. May or may not help!
Whatever the outcome you can count me as a friend.
Mandiex
deleted_user
deleted_user
I wonder why you are taking in an adopted child. There are services for adopted children. If she's really disturbed here in California, she can get AAP (Aid to Adoptive Placement), and even get residential treatment paid for, if it's needed.

Ask her parents to check into all the alternatives THEY have for her through the county!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am sorry to hear you are goingthrough this, she sounds likeshe is dealing with a lot ofissues, does she have a medicalk card to help pay for services? the ped. she sees should beable to point you to some services for her as far a stherapy and maybe a child pysh, these kids that have been put through the system ahve so many issues, you really are never sure what they are , maybe too that she may not be able to in a placement with other children. you can try behavior charts and just being consistent,. but one thing you are really going to have to do is realize your son has to come first, his safety matters, good luck I wish the best for you, did the system place her with you? if they did they should have services for her,
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm inclined to agree with harry3333 to some degree. Not about the nasty place, tell her that and your guaranteed screaming. But do explain to her that she is different to the other children, teach her to act the part of a normal because even when she reaches my age (35) she will need to keep those acting skills. This is not to say she is any less. She is probably gifted in ways that normals can never know, these willl become apparent through the years but she does need to know that she must be watchful of herself to avoid falling into the traps that are waiting for her.
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