I would like to try to find someway to help my son. Last fall at school they did the severe weather drill. The teacher mentioned to the class that in the near future they would be staying home by themselves so it was important to know. Ever since then my son has asked everyday if there is going to be a tornado or severe thunderstorm. He puts our house on lockdown at the first thought, sight, sound of thunder. He will call me at work if he sees a "dark cloud". When there is one, he locks my doors and windows no matter how hot and stuffy it may be. The second I try to open them he turns around and closes them. He spent the night at my sisters the other night. Granted it was a different location, but he didn't go to sleep until 2 am. She told me she didn't realized that it immobilized him. He has a very hard time thinking about or doing anything else. I have had to go to the point of allowing him to talk about it at certain times and then saying to him, "Ok, we are not talking about storms anymore." I'm not mean or crass about it. I just want him to learn not to let it consume his life. He is in the house and he is safe. We do not live in an area where there are alot of tornados. We do get some good thunderstorms. I usually snuggle with him when he is scared like that and he goes to sleep and doesn't hear a thing. I have told him when he is home during the summer if he gets scared go lay down with Daddy. He works 3rd shift and is sleeping in the afternoon. I just feel so bad, I can only imagine how he feels inside. How do I help him through this successfully. Is it something he will grow out of? I have tried the educating approach. It helps him understand a little better but still anxious about it. The other day he asked why God was mad at him. I explained God isn't mad at him but he needs the lightening and such. There is a reason for everything. Any advice?
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