Asperger Syndrome Support Group
Asperger syndrome - also referred to as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger's, Aspergers or just AS - is one of five neurobiological pervasive developmental disorders (PDD), and is characterized by deficiencies in social and communication skills, normal to above normal intelligence, and standard language development.
Just wondered if others suffered from burnout from their kid's trying to get them to do stuff all the time. I was just putting my daughter to bed, and she claimed she was too tired to say prayers and wanted me to do it for her. I have, on occasion, sympathized with her and did it. I try to be a nice loving parent, at times. Other times, when I'm really tired, my burnt out, calloused side shows thru, and I just tell her she either participates or I leave. She's done this behavior to me so many times in so many situations that I'm just weary of it. It's also worse too because she has a younger brother, who she wants to compete with because of the jealous rivalry. So, she wants to be even needier at times, which really repels me. Anyone else deal with this type of behavior? Any suggestions.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Structure and discipline is hard but good... especially when your tired. Forcing beliefs on kids can back fire, better to have them define their own idea's about what god is, even if they are silly to you...
If your Christian, then teach your kids about Jesus, but ask them what do you think he was like? I wish my parents did this with me... Help me build a personal relationship with god, and not their relationship with god...
Anyways back on topic... Yes, Yes, No, Yes... hehe... Its tiring, if you let them get away with it, they will continue, they will figure out how to manipulate you and they will do it... I know I was great at manipulation. Got to be strong and not let it happen... Your smarter then them..
Anyways, if you have problems where it seems they are building up, and going to explode just divert them... "Ohh did you read that book mom bought you?"
I took allot of psychology classes in college and remember most of it. Get a book on raising kids... hell when I do find a woman that will actually want kids with me (hehe)... then I will definitely buy books... and keep reading books as they grow up.
It's probably better for your child, in the sense of something not necessary for school (like prayers) to say, "OK. If you're too tired, let's just say a quick silent prayer, together." That way, you don't have to take responsibility, but it's not a power struggle, either.
Maybe look into those solutions as often as possible:
1) If it's required: getting to school, for example, then help as much as is needed, but take away privileges if it seems like it's getting to be too excessive help. For example, if she "can't put her shoes on", help her, but that evening have her practice putting her shoes on & off (during her favorite TV time!) for a half hour "just to make sure she knows how, for tomorrow!".
2) If it's not needed, let it go. Do a cursory act of it
or just skip it.
3) If you think she really DOESN'T HAVE THE SKILL, then take the time out one or two times to teach the skill, & have her practice it for the next few days; then expect her to do it.
That's the best I can suggest.
Kris
Kris
Kris