Hi everyone I'm new to this site, I'm struggling beyond my worst of worst, I am a wife married to my husband of close to 4 years. He has Aspergers and it is beyond destroying our marriage. He is so withdrawn from me, as I continue to feel neglected and abandoned. He was in no way like this before and after our second year of marriage it slowly began to unfold that something was just not right. He's constantly protective of his own time and space and we barley have much time together at all. He has me so closed off I feel like our marriage will end. Trying to talk to him only makes him more defensive. He refuses to go to a Dr knowing they can't cure him, and he's afraid of taking medications, so he has been obsessed with trying to take vitamins he thinks will cure him, he's almost in such denial that he doesn't see the hurt he causes. I am disabled from a car accident we were in the first year we were married and I'm constantly in pain. So our relationship has suffered a lot just in such a short period of time. But he is not at all the man I married and as hurt as I can be he rarely ever will comfort me or apologize. This past Valentines Day I asked him to stay home and we could have breakfast together before he went into work and he snapped at me blaming me that I didn't remind him it was Valentines Day and that staying at home longer then he planned before work was not what he was going to do. I'm so exhausted of feeling so unimportant and dealing with his outbursts of cruelty that he leaves me with constantly going about his day as if it's not important. He excuses and mostly denies everything he does that would send most out the door. I always are the one to pick up the pieces and form an apology but this time I've had it and I don't want to continue him thinking that treating me this way is ok. It's hard because I feel stuck more then anything being disabled, and I at times feel he knows I depend on him so he thinks he can get away with whatever he wants to. He does not take any responsibility and any kind of stress he runs from and escapes never trying to work anything out. I'm so hurt I can't describe in words and are desperate for help. We have been to marriage counseling and even the counselors finslky saw his issues and said he will continue to be unreasonable until he is medicated. I've tried reaching out to our pastor from church and he even tried finding us proper counseling because he knew how differently difficult our situation is. It's very hard to find the right Dr. But I'm growing thin having to live every breath with endless impossibilitys due to my disability and such agonizing pain all the time I just can't continue to be abused this way. He even shows signs of bipolar tendency where he's fine and we're connecting and suddenly he flips like a switch. He barley interacts with my family as he is constantly on his phone downloading info he's into from YouTube which he finds a few things he obsesses over and then talks to others about those things no matter if it makes sense to bring up or not. We are only in our early 30's and I can't imagine continuing on like this, despite that I don't believe in separation, I just don't know what else to do. Anyone please help my heart is just breaking.
i can't get a doctor to diagnose me with bipolar. I know I am. They all say I'm just depressed but I know I am bipolar. I'm so tired of living with this way. I know what's wrong with me is more than depression. I need a mood stabilizer. I know I do :/ Any ideas ?
I've been gone awhile and was hoping we could check in and share....Where in the world are you?Single or marriedWork or disabilitymeds or notbetter or worse?Pets?Do share, add questions, lets play!!!!