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Asperger syndrome - also referred to as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger's, Aspergers or just AS - is one of five neurobiological pervasive developmental disorders (PDD), and is characterized by deficiencies in social and communication skills, normal to above normal intelligence, and standard language development.

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how to overcome most prominent special interesst

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i am having a hard time coping with a person i have become obsessed with since 2006, i do not want to have this special interest and it is now affecting my life as a result.i do not really know what to do as i do not want to see psycotherapist other special interests are not so much of a problem as i can hide them or people in general have had the same sort of interests im not dangerous and im not delusional into thinking he wants me but ihave now got to the stage where i got a boyfriend on the basis he looked like subject person,i have realised this was wrong for the man involved and myself so ended the relationship but am still stuck at the same area that no one will ever compare to subject person who i know i can never have and im having real trouble moving on
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That's the tough part about OCD and similar disorders, the Obsessional component. You just can't seem to turn it off. On top of that, when I try Cognitive Behavior Therapy meathods(CBT) it seems like a lie that I'm telling myself. And when it comes to "replacing" a boyfriend/girlfriend it seems like cheating, almost.
I know that it might seem like you need to explain that you're not delusional or dangerous. A brave thing to say. But you have to believe it too. You're dealing with physiological issues of the brain. Chemical "imbalances" and neurons misfiring or whatever. That's where psychotherapy and even meds can help you. Today's meds can seriously reduce that obsessive-thinking without changing your personality. They can give you the ability to "reclaim your brain".
I'm proud of you that you're monitoring your behavior and staying away from your "subject person". That's the right move, but take it from me, you'll be running for the rest of your life if you don't get the help, that helping hand up, that you need.
GL.
harry3333
harry3333
antidepressant meds sometimes reduce OCD
it may help to get a dog or a cat and transfer your attention and thoughts to it
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ive seen the side effects meds have had on my son,and although he is now slightly improved i do not wish to start meds at the age of 32 my life although odd in areas is fine in other ways and my other children who i bring up on my own are classed as very wellrounded,developed children, i have a dog and other pets i probably will go to doctors with all this im just scared i will be forced on to meds and at my age i like being in charge of my own life.im also scared of a misdiagnosis as they took 14 years to get my sons right..
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I'm a strong believer in psychotherapy. Or, find someone you can confide in, and work on changing your thought patterns & behaviors with that person: a friend, relative, clergyperson, or whomever you trust.

Meds are not as bad as you might imagine, and they can be a great help. Just get off of any that cause you bad side effects...immediately!

Volunteer work or the development of a new "passion" (interest in anything--a book, a cause, a group, a project, something intensely interesting) can also be a help in forgetting someone.
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