Asperger Syndrome Support Group

Asperger syndrome - also referred to as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger's, Aspergers or just AS - is one of five neurobiological pervasive developmental disorders (PDD), and is characterized by deficiencies in social and communication skills, normal to above normal intelligence, and standard language development.

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How do you find the energy?

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I was just wondering how others of you coped with getting your Aspie child to clean up a room or help out here & there, when it takes all of your energy just to focus them on one task & you have lots to do yourself? :)
harry3333
harry3333
paying them sometimes helps
deleted_user
deleted_user
Mine is actually really good with lining up things and cleaning (the kids are that is). Dad is a different matter. My husband won't clean no matter what, and I haven't found any incentives for him either.
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Yeah. We do find ways to get her to help. I just get tired of having to ask, plead, bribe, etc. My hubby is a much stronger person than I am & can consistently get her to do stuff, but I get so tired. I get home from work, & I don't want to work anymore. Her home work is work for me. It's frustrating! One thing that really works for her, sad but true, is food. Of course, she's overweight, so food is a problem in & of itself. That's how they motivate her at school too...
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Giving an incentive does help but make it something they really want. This sounds like bribery but it is really helpful.
Also once a behaviour becomes a routine it won't need that...I found my son likes set patterns, he would ge tup at a certain time, clean his room, make his breakfast, make me a cuppa tea. This was all part of his routine, this changed when he got older but if we start the routine again it can work.
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I am a single mother of a 9 year old son who has asperger's and OCD, a 10 year old daughter who has ADHD and ODD. You want to talk about needing energy. Of course there are the tech. things. Routines, certain foods, certain clothes, limits and boundries. It all comes down to one thing "PATIENCE". I don't care how many books you read(I've read most),how many Dr.'s, therapists. If you don't have patience you are fighting a losing battle. My son has meltdowns regularly. Intermitten Explosive disorder(proper name)for what to you and I seem to be a tiny, meaningless thing. To him, His whole world fell apart and he can't deal with it. Then he gets angery and destrys my house.(ex. Tanner was carrying toast from the kitchen to the living room. He dropped it. He picked up the vaccum and throw it across the room, flipped the kitchen table and ran to his room and destryed that. Asperger's to the T. If You don't have the patience to bring him back to our world. Things will only get worse.
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