well this I guess, I take aspergers to be something lucky I have. I not sure that there is anything wrong with it, just not to good socially thats all.

I believe with any relationship, one needs to have love, kindness, respect and the ability to communicate and understand the other person. This can be difficult in the best of circumstances. I believe education is key. It has certainly helped my husband and I understand our son and allowed us to see his side of things more clearly. We approach things differently with him as compared to our daughters.

We started our education journey with the OASIS Guide to Asperger Syndrome by: Patricia Romanowski Bashe and Barbara L. Kirby. I checked it out from my local library and found the information so useful that I purchased it. They also have a website http://www.udel.edu/bkirby/asperger/ that is an excellent souce. You can get hooked up with message boards. There are four of them - Aspie Hangout, Asperger/Autistic Adults, AS and Their Partners and ASPartners. I've also found other support groups via the Delphi forums once I got into those that were great and I know they have some great ones set up for people like yourself in which they have online chat/support groups. The OASIS website also can point you to local support groups in your area, if there are any. I know I have to drive a little ways. But, the website is a great start.

As we delved deeper and deeper, we got a feel for what we needed/wanted and went those routes. I'm always looking online for new books that are out. There are also Autism conferences that go on around the country in the larger cities. We're having one in the Chicago area upcoming www.autismone.org. These are always full of good information.

My spouse has Asperger's and after two years of marriage I'm still figuring out how he communicates. I tried really hard to research and read books thinking that if I could just understand why he did the stuff he did. Then I finally just started asking more questions. I've learned that he needs extra time to process things in a converstation. I'm a quick respondering and I'm working to learn how to slow down the converstation to make it more meaningful for the both of us.
Feel free to message me with any questions. I'm willing to share my experiences. Definately not an expert!

Look up on the web a group called ANI(Autism Network International) and another called InLv(Independant Living). They are groups of adults and teens on the spectrum and their families. Some couples both are on the spectrum, others it's one person or their child, or a child and one parent. OASIS run by Barb Kirby is also a good group. I've known all 3 groups for probably 11 years now.