I've been married for over 21 years. My husband is brilliant and very well respected in his profession - legal field. Now I see that the pattern of our marriage shows many textbook signs of my husband having AS.
I'd suspected that my husband was gay for years because as soon as we got engaged (an awesome courtship by the way) he stopped displaying any signs of affection towards me and sex has been nonexistent. I'd about given up on our marriage and was contemplating an affair and or divorce until a few days ago when I read an article about AS affecting sexual function and emotional connections. I started reading more and more about AS and the signs are all there. I just read Dr. Kathy Marshack's "Going over the Edge" and it was illuminating!
I'm afraid to approach this the wrong way because I truly feel this is what is going on with us. We mostly get along very well unless I'm feeling angry or sad about our loveless marriage. When I say loveless I mean that I know he loves me very much but I'm still so lonely all of the time. He's just not emotionally or intimately available for me at all - no cuddles or hugs - no nothing.
I need to figure out how to broach the subject with him so that he's receptive to exploring the possibility he has AS without damaging his self-esteem. Any thoughts?
On Nye I get a long text from my wife of four years basically saying I'm a great husband, great father, but she's not in love with me anymore. My wife lost her job in November one month after we bought or our first house. She got a new job after a month and this is when she started to change. She met someone at work and has been texting constantly, and come to find out staying at his house...
They were regulars and my DS friends. Does anyone know if they are good? I stopped posting for awhile. And Andrea Lambert was very interesting and enjoyable, remember--she was a witch...just want to hear all is good.