
Asperger Syndrome Support Group
Asperger syndrome - also referred to as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger's, Aspergers or just AS - is one of five neurobiological pervasive developmental disorders (PDD), and is characterized by deficiencies in social and communication skills, normal to above normal intelligence, and standard language development.

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I work at a supported living facility for persons afflicted with Autism. Co-workers etc continue to assert(gently) that I should be checked out for AS. As a will-be psychologist I'm actually inclined to agree. It's pretty scary, though it explains volumes and volumes. I haven't told anyone, especially my girlfriend how worried or depressed I am, choosing instead to 'troll' around pissed off at everyone and everything feeling like I am falling apart at the seams.
I don't think I could get through all that if she wound up choosing not to cope with such a thing. How in the name of god does one go about approaching this sort of thing with their loved ones? "Hey sweety.. I'm more than just really odd and cranky, and that thing where I'm just not a huge fan of human contact, the odd phrases etc...well et this..."
Any advice would help, I'm feeling pretty lost and crummy right now.
I don't think I could get through all that if she wound up choosing not to cope with such a thing. How in the name of god does one go about approaching this sort of thing with their loved ones? "Hey sweety.. I'm more than just really odd and cranky, and that thing where I'm just not a huge fan of human contact, the odd phrases etc...well et this..."
Any advice would help, I'm feeling pretty lost and crummy right now.
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How much better to KNOW about yourself, so you can share what is appropriate with others & can start to remediate what's needed, in order to have an optimal relationship with your girlfriend & coworkers, over time!
I do think that she needs to know upfront what she's getting into. It's one of the horrible realities of life that ppl might choose NOT to help someone with a syndrome, dysfunction, handicap etc. But it is their right. And she's the only who can make the determination of whether or not she can deal with it.
My bet is that if she's dating a "will-be psychologist" that she's attracted to ppl that like helping other's. That might indicate that she has a pretty big heart herself.
Who knows Cain, she might just become the biggest fan of your life?
If your relationship can not be mutually satisfying with your girlfriend, then you are better off breaking up. You owe it to her to be honest about important things and to talk with her about them. Otherwise you are treating her like a thing you want and are being manipulative and abusive. If you really love her, you will want her to be happy.
If you become a psychologist and are AS, you will not be good at certain things. The thing is to pick a TYPE of psychologist job that you can do well and that you enjoy. Maybe psychological assessment (if you can muster up a pleasant manner) or research. Counselling or therapy will demand abilities you don't have so don't set yourself up for this.
Make sure you don't catastrophise.
All the best
You need to understand your AS and exactly what things affect you and how etc.
As has its own complex mix of issues for each and everyone of us...
no tow are exactly alike...
but the upside is you know first of all what it is now...
knowing is better than not knowing..
remmber that befor you or she knew you had AS she loved you...
why should that change just because you now knnow a little more about why you react the way you do
and you have known and so has she tath you react different than most men but now you are begining to understand why..
we with AS were born with a neurologically different brain that processes in put differently and sometimes better but for other things not better..
many have sensory over load or sensitivity isssues etc.
when you talk to her let her know that you are looking at this as an explaination not an excuse for your behaviors etc.
that day by day as an individual you strive to be better thru self realization and thru strong positive interaction with those close to you like her who do not have this
you can stay better self centering and balanced to how you react to your world around you...
that at times to cope better you may modify or cushioin your envionment to help you cope..
at other times you may change or alter how or when you do thinngs to cope...
no big thing really just different..
for example using my personal experience...
due to my extreme noise sensitivity and other issues I do not go to the store during peak hours when MOm and dad are their with screaming/shrieking kids... or grandpa and gradma are there going very slowly up and down the aisle...
instead be cause it is queter and less stressful for me I shop at 24 hour grocery storees and go at say 3:30-4 am
I use my list and get in and out of the store effectively and eficiently within 25 to 30 min at most...
you need to go over a comprehensive list of AS symthoms to asses what ones effect you vs which do not then rate the degree from 1-100 as to severity to give you and her a picture of exactly what you deal with...
and it will help you make a plan of action type tool box for dealing with it
it will reduce your stress and make things easier for you...
and also make your interaction with her esier because she will be lea=ss stressed in dealing with you also
in my humble opinion...
if you should need or want my help in making this list form my self assembled AS Manual I'll be happy to assist you
I self diagnoised in 2004 going for Formal diagnoisis with in next 2-3 months (as soon as the Dr I have selected has a opening for me)
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