Just wanted to tell those of you with AS children that I have been using a discipline system that seems to impact my child when nothing else has. I made a list of rules - very simple rules - that she must abide by. She lacks adequate hygiene skills so they include washing hair, brushing teeth, etc. They also include very basic chores such as clearing your plate after dinner, keeping your room tidy, etc. If she CHOOSES not to abide by these rules, she starts to lose the things that she loves the most for an entire week. At first, I didn't think it would work. But now, if she breaks a rule, I don't yell or scream, I simply mark the chart. It drives her crazy and she will beg me not too. I tell her a rule is a rule and if she can learn to abide by them, there will be no problems. They are no unrealistic rules and ones that she can clearly see in black and white on paper. We also use it for siblings so that she doesn't feel she is being singled out. It shows her that she can have some control and when it comes right down to it, she's all about the control. This is also a way to try to get her to pay a little bit of attention to her hygiene. This is a big question of mine - does anyone else have an AS child who simply does not care how they look? I don't expect her to look like she walked off a runway, but I do expect her to be clean and presentable, so I incorporated it into her rules. I have learned to avoid the severe mood swings until they pass and she comes around to the apology phase, but the hygiene I can not excuse. The mood swings are severe and take quite a toll on me, but I try to deal with them.
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