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Asperger syndrome - also referred to as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger's, Aspergers or just AS - is one of five neurobiological pervasive developmental disorders (PDD), and is characterized by deficiencies in social and communication skills, normal to above normal intelligence, and standard language development.

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Dentist Help!!

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Hi...I am so upset an exhausted from trying to get someone to see my son (12 yrs old) for dental work. He needs three cavities filled and one extraction at this point. I have more details in my journal...but long story short...if we do get a dental appointment I want to have it be a successful one.
(I'll post this in AS group as well)

So last appointment, he got real scared and demanded that the dentist stop. The dentist got scared that my son was scared and kicked us out.

My son is sensory defensive. I try to prep the dentist as much as they are willing to listen. I can also bring my son sunglasses. Other than that I need some real help. My son says that he can not tolerate knowing that someone is about to cause him pain (the needle) and sit there and allow it. He honestly said that he would need to "have someone put a chain around his head to hold him in place" because that is the only way that he can see it working out that he can manage to sit through it.

He clearly feels out of control in this situation and really wants help too.

Does anyone give their kid medication or gas or ANYTHING you can think of that has helped??? How do I go about getting anything (drugs, gas)? The dentists here that take his insurance tell me they don't allow it. All advice is very welcome...thanks!!!
deleted_user
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I have to have my son put to sleep if it's alot of work that needs to be done. other than that they use gas. if not no one would ever be able to touch him.
harry3333
harry3333
you may have to pay extra for the gas
have you tried a large dose of valium for him about 1 hour before?
deleted_user
deleted_user
My son has required a lot of dental work done. As a result, we had to see a specialist who dealt with special needs children. This guy was terrific. My son is AS, ADHD, OCD and has Sensory Issues. We started going to this dentist when he was 6. We immediately agreed to use gas with him for the cavities and such and it worked out well. However, this past year, he needed to have a lot done and the dentist felt he couldn't get it all done and it would be best to have him sedated. So, we did that route, which ended up working out great as well. I must say these weren't covered by our insurance. However, because it is documented medically that he has sensory issues along with the ADHD and AS, we were able to have his doctor write a letter stating that sedation/gas would help tremendously in dental procedures. We then sent this into the dental insurance and we were reimbursed. Hope this helps. It certainly worked for us. I'd definitely look for a dentist that specializes. Although, we pay a bit more out of the pocket. It's worth it for our son's piece of mind.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh wow!! Thank you guys!! There IS hope!!

I can not afford anything that is not covered...I am currently struggling to get through my next 4 months of internships without getting paid just so that I can get my license in OTA and finally work and get paid. So this also means that I can not pick and choose who I get as a dentist.

I haven't tried valium. But from what you all said so far it sounds like it would be best to ask/beg his general practicioner into writing such a letter, praying that the dentist will agree and try to do all the work in one shot..or two.

I think I need to get creative here...maybe if that doesn't work out...I can take out a private student loan to pay for a dentist who IS willing to sedate him...or even contact my local AS support group and see if there is any funding available for this sort of thing....idk...but it is all worth a shot.

I was really feeling crushed by the situation...and so appreciate your help!
Thanks all!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
My lad gets a prescribed mouth wash off our dentist as he often refuses to brush his teeth. He has SID too and going the dentist can be a nightmare. I don't know if you can give them gas or anything like that. The mouthwash we get ensures he has a clean mouth and teeth without him stressing about brushing. I do worry about him having to get fillings. But luckily at the moment his teeth are healthy. So it must be working somewhat.
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