i do not think u can get out of it
i have it and i am 218 years old

could his AS problems just be controlled by the enviroment and be a ticking time bomb waiting to happen? Cause like I said the violent side of him is mellow (for now) and he is acheiving his work but they totally go at his pace, with no homework ect. Do adults learn to handle the more aggresive sides and could he maybe just be in an enviroment that helps him control the as symptoms?

NO I am 52 real age and not grown out yet and DONT WANT TOO AM BRILLIANT AND BEAUTIFUL ASPIE!!!!

Don't worry about the appointment. You can only get so much into one meeting anyway. Just what you put in that paragraph says a lot. my son is 25 and I've noticed that when he is around normal students he tries to fit in more, quit talking to himself so it is a plus, he definately improved. But people are different. I'm sure the doctor will have some ideas.
Good luck.
Heidi

Thanks for the info. Maybe he feels like he is more like the kids he is with. The teacher did say that he has had some outbursts that in gen pop of school he would have been n the detention. He jsut hasnt had any fights and he hasnt pulled any ultra stupid stunts like taking knives to school cause they look cool to show off to his friends... completely oblivious to the idea of why its wrong to take knives to school... a year later and he can finally tell you the text book answer why not to do it but IM sure there will be some variation of the incident. Like say ummm numchucks... and no I dont give him acess to these things lol. One concept doesnt seem to spread across the spectrum for him. Setting fire to a bush and setting fire to paper just doesnt seem to have the same rules in his head. Over the last 14 years I have worked so hard to teach him basic concepts that most kids learn on thier own it seems like he is finally useing some of them. I think he is socially still at a low. He is a wonderful bright abitious person. He has goals even if they are extreams... but if we didnt have goals no one would play NFL football be acting stars or climb Mt everest. What ever he chooses to do in life I will support it as long as it doesnt invole harm to others... I jsut want to try to get him the best education I can and if it means getting a proped dx then so be it... he is who he is and I love him a dx wont change that it just might help others be able to love the traits in him that they find 'rude' or inapropriate.

I'd ask the neuropsych, while you're there, to "rule out" both ANY symptoms of Autism Spectrum Disorder (as they don't have him diagnosed that way--meaning PDD-NOS, Asperger's, High Functioning Autism, or Autism). I'd also have the doc rule out Klinefelter's Syndrome, since lots of cases of that are like AS & get undiagnosed in men.

Ask for a complete, written list or report stating: diagnoses (DSM types) plus your son's behaviors that determined the doc to believe those diagnoses exist. Then keep the paper & copy it for all school psychologists, etc. & IEP's you attend. That will be helpful in determining appropriate behavioral & academic goals for him.

I agree that he may be doing well BECAUSE he is in the most appropriate, "Least Restrictive Environment" for him, NOW; that any change toward mainstreaming will be too much for him, unless an aide is provided. Push for an aide if they want him more mainstreamed! That will assure you he'll get the care he'll need, & offer a buffer against deteriorating behavior in the general ed. classroom!

No.

You can change the way you are, habits etc...

But why would you want to. we are the gifted ones.

lol.... mmm....

AS never goes away, but the behaviors can improve.

Thank you. All the info is very helpful. I agree my son is very gifted. And if its AS he has to deal with the rest of his life he got the better end of the stick from my families mental health pool. We have a very long list of BiPolars and ADHD people along with schizo and other more sever problems. He suffed some sever prebirth and post birth trama where the connection between me and him shut down for blood/food/oxigen he was near still born (10%) of blood left in his body and organs were shutting down. He has a lot of medical foundation for problems with the brain including genes.

I know what ever he sets his mind to he will be sucessful at it even if the goal changes a ton. And thats a-ok by me. I will make a list of the things you all have mentioned and I hadnt thought of an aide for class.

I just worry that his agressive side will come back if the kids say the wrong thing. He holds it in then bam.... ww3. that or he makes wonderful choice that others see as dangerous. and It usually ends up getting him a criminal record (like the running after a kid to show him the knife... the kid was scared Sh*tless and wouldnt stop. I dont blame the kid he lives in a scary world.) My son didnt see what was wrong with the picture and still waffles on the severity of it. I just really want to keep him safe until he learns the social skills to keep him out of jail. I could care less if he laughs when I scold him or refuses to look at you when you talk... just stay safe and out of jail where he doesnt really belong.

Ok enough ranting lol... any other helpful ideas very welcome of course

Sometimes it is basically, things are getting better! You don't outgrow an autism spectrum disorder as their are also tests that can be as evidence for it.... but if getting better, thats great too :)

Kris

no...one can not grow out of Asperger's. there are ways to cope and learn how to interact in the world better, but Asperger's is not a disese, it is in the genes, like if one has brown eyes, they can't changed to blue. (just an example)

Hi everyone,
Can anybody tell me what all these acronyms mean: OCD, PMS,NT, HFA,URL,ASD/LF, ADA,SSI,NOS, NLD, HF, or at least where I could find them.
Mona

wait a minute simrub... you're 218 years old?

I really like "Treeheart's" comparison to eye color. I'm sure we've all observed type-specific behavior as well even though the risk to stereotype runs rampant here: Blondes, brunettes, redheads behaving in a certain stereotypical manner, black people not swimming, gay men/women having good/bad decorating sense...yadda yadda. The thing is that you as a free human being can within a good sized range can develop yourself, your processes and your lifestyle to fit the way you are. You may also change things about how you interface with the world without feeling you must explain away all the individual traits you have are merely representative of a group of people that I believe have been grossly wronged by the designation of "sufferers of a syndrome", or of having a "disorder"; I've seen a lot of disorder that could have been avoided had people processed information, proximics, consequences, action etc. in a manner that A/S people do. Why do I never lose my keys? I put them where they belong.
Why do sometimes fail to communicate? The hard truth is that I didn't try hard enough, not just in the moment but in a holistic manner. See it like the Tao: Have a WAY of doing things, a STANDARD of behavior and action and an honest knowledge of yourself and others right to peace and right to fault and the short time we have with each other.
....and typical of A/S I rambled off topic sort of...for me it seems as I've gotten older it's gotten worse. It bears deeper analysis though, other things are not equal: I tend to allow more BS into my life than I used to as I have grown to value companionship for its own sake. I have curbed much of my inclination to behave automatically and I've also had enough upheaval in my life to just let a lot slide although internally I still have the anxiety process "alarms" blaring. It's almost like that 2nd Chris Reeves Superman Movie where in order to be with Lois he not only gave up being "Super", he kind of became a putz. A/S people, we're single minded...Do you want to do great things? Do you want to have a family? Create music, art, whatever. I had this realization a long time ago that I've forgotten a re-remembered time after time: You can do ANYTHING, but you can't do EVERYTHING, so choose, succeed/fail/change-your-mind, choose again, whatever. You've got your threescore and 10, (thats 70) to live your life, maybe there's another, maybe not, work it out, find out what's important to you and go with it.

It depends as their is all types of degrees of Aspergers, some can be really bad and affected but yet again others like myself can be really clever and dont have a problem making friends in life and becoming successful at some point in their lifes! Then theirs others in between both!