Asperger Syndrome Support Group
Asperger syndrome - also referred to as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger's, Aspergers or just AS - is one of five neurobiological pervasive developmental disorders (PDD), and is characterized by deficiencies in social and communication skills, normal to above normal intelligence, and standard language development.
Hi,
I don't have Asperger's Syndrome myself, but my boyfriend does. We live together and I adore him, but the Asperger's sometimes puts a strain on things, as I am sure you are all very familiar with. I am determined for this relationship to work, and I think one way of achieving that is to find somewhere to talk to people who know what its like living close to but outside the world of Asperger's and how it can be frustrating... but that you really don't mean to be frustrated and you know it's not their fault and you love them so, so much but its just that you've heard about the lego seventeen times this week so far and its only tuesday and you're trying to do the washing but he wants in to the kitchen for his lunch and "in a minute, love" won't cut it, and hearing that "you're being really awkward today" is so utterly ironic but you look at him to bite his head off and realise you just want to hug him...
If this is not the right place for me to be then i'm sorry, I've only just started searching for support sites and thought i'd try here.
Thanks
Pixie
I don't have Asperger's Syndrome myself, but my boyfriend does. We live together and I adore him, but the Asperger's sometimes puts a strain on things, as I am sure you are all very familiar with. I am determined for this relationship to work, and I think one way of achieving that is to find somewhere to talk to people who know what its like living close to but outside the world of Asperger's and how it can be frustrating... but that you really don't mean to be frustrated and you know it's not their fault and you love them so, so much but its just that you've heard about the lego seventeen times this week so far and its only tuesday and you're trying to do the washing but he wants in to the kitchen for his lunch and "in a minute, love" won't cut it, and hearing that "you're being really awkward today" is so utterly ironic but you look at him to bite his head off and realise you just want to hug him...
If this is not the right place for me to be then i'm sorry, I've only just started searching for support sites and thought i'd try here.
Thanks
Pixie
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Yes the Aspergers certainly is challenging especially when they are children and you try to diffrentiate between the aspergers and child defiance.
He is 22, 23 this year. We have a flat which he lived in himself before I moved in and, although his parents still dealt with some things, like setting up the bills for him and things, he is pretty good at doing everything for himself. He has a wide group of acquaintances who can give him fun but who can only put up with him for so long at a time, and then a small inner circle who adore him and will be his friends forever. He holds down a job he enjoys and is planning to go to university next year.
Differentiating between the Aspergers and normal childish behaviour doesnt really change i dont think lol just now its working out if its the Aspergers or if he's just being a useless boy :P
You are certainly welcome here, although there is less conversations and replies here than on many sites specifically about Autism/Aspergers.
I have Aspergers and so does my husband. Even though I have it, I still see and notice my husbands unusual behaviours. I do think that each person will act different, but my husband acts very typical of AS. He has very narrow interests and will constantly give me speeches on facts about things he is interested in. The whole time he will be looking in another direction as though he is talking to someone else. He has become more dependent on me as he has gotten older and it IS very stressful. Especially because I have a lot of stress of my own.
I do think that a neurotypical person (you) can have a successful relationship with someone "on the spectrum", but I think it can be very hard.
I wish you good luck.
And, if you want to have a wider base of people to chat with, I would recommend the web site called "wrong planet"
I know he's young - he wants to meet someone.
I feel a little bit hopeful that you and other's have someone and maybe he will too.
I'm not rushing him to the alter, just friends
or a girlfriend, for now!