
Asperger Syndrome Support Group
Asperger syndrome - also referred to as Asperger's syndrome, Asperger's, Aspergers or just AS - is one of five neurobiological pervasive developmental disorders (PDD), and is characterized by deficiencies in social and communication skills, normal to above normal intelligence, and standard language development.

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I've been married for almost 24 years and intimacy in the bedroom has always been a challenge. Wife doesn't like kissing - doesn't really enjoy gentle caresses - never seems to want sex and merely tolerates it when it does happen.
When I stumbled upon AS as a possible Diag. many pieces fell into place. I've always felt as if there was a glass wall between us. She has never really opened up and bared her soul to me. She is a great gal and I love her dearly but the lack of intimacy and the guardedness of her self have left me wondering if I really know who she is. That is where understanding AS has helped me see that all of this could be organic.
We've got four kids and I really enjoy the contrast betw our personalities - most of the time but definitely not in the bedroom.
Is there any hope? Will this be the way that she is until death do us part?
When I stumbled upon AS as a possible Diag. many pieces fell into place. I've always felt as if there was a glass wall between us. She has never really opened up and bared her soul to me. She is a great gal and I love her dearly but the lack of intimacy and the guardedness of her self have left me wondering if I really know who she is. That is where understanding AS has helped me see that all of this could be organic.
We've got four kids and I really enjoy the contrast betw our personalities - most of the time but definitely not in the bedroom.
Is there any hope? Will this be the way that she is until death do us part?
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Oddly enough, the best place I found that discusses sexual therapy is in JoAnn Loulan's book, *Lesbian Sex*. It has an excellent section on helping traumatized women to get over aversion to sexuality.
If your wife WANTS to enjoy sex more, that'd be a book to borrow from the library or to buy.
Otherwise, that may just be the way it is. It really is hard-wiring in the brain, and the "physical" aspect of sex is in the "right brain", which is the weak section in persons with Asperger's!
I am not a sex therapist. I'm just a married woman. So, the following is my opinion only and not "fact":
Women take awhile to feel "lovey" sometimes. If your household is like mine, it can be intense and unpredictable at times. Sometimes, when I am in the mood, my husband doesn't know it. Partly because he can't take a hint and partly because his mind is going in alot of directions at once. By the time he gets that I am in the mood, he has been a jerk and I may not be in the same mood. Also, he may not get how his behaviors affect others. He is in the mood at odd times (like after we have had a fight). He may be quickly over the situation but I am still mad.
So, I guess I'm being devil's advocate and trying to say it may not be all due to your wife's "guardedness". (Just from another wife's point of view).