I can definately relate to this. Soon after I learned through my 2 year old daughter that her daddy had a new girlfriend, I also learned that she had a "new mommy" Now at this time it wasn't soon after I gave him placement of her, but I still had her as much as he did. And of course when I questioned them about this they denied it. It continued, and eventually the truth came out. The GF, whom had no children, informed me that she infact was my daughters mother because she took care of her while she was there. It took every ounce of a mother & woman in me to track this b*%$h and pound the snot out of her. I knew that if I did this there would be no way I'd ever get placement of her back. So I tried everything to get the law guardian & judge to see this, they said "theres no reason for concerns about this." Well in 2008 we were back in court, my daughter was 4, she had started pre-school, and school called the GF "mom." I'll never forget the day that the law guardian came to my house & couldn't wait another second to tell me that she felt I was being alienated, and that my child was obviously confused about who her real mother was. FINALY!! She wanted me to bring my daughter in to talk to the judge, if I agreed. I should've done it, I wouldn't still be going through this. I didn't want to put my daughter though that though, walking into a court room,with her father on one side and mother on the other, and going into a room with just her, the law guardian, and judge. I should've done it, that wouldn't have had nowhere's near the effect on her compaired to what she saw & went through years to follow. I regret not doing it almost every day. They said that because "the child" had been refering to her as mom for so long that we couldn't just start telling her not to any more, but that everyone else had to refer to her by name, this was put in the court order. Well it didn't really stop, until they started to split up. So now, here's my daughter thats been calling this woman "mom" for nearly six years now, and she's gone, & dad won't let them see each other. She definately knows who her real mother is, and she says that shes fine with not seeing her. After awhile my daughter got to see the womans true colors and didn't care for her much at all anyways. But still she was in her life for quiete a while, & I think she's saying she's fine because she thinks thats what we want to hear, I'm afraid she does that alot. Over the years this woman and I have had a roller coaster relationship. I looked past the anger I had for her, for the sake of my daughter. And it's truly funny because all of the things I told her would happen in their relationship, happened. She's deeply apologized to me multipule times, and often thinks about the things I told her in the begining, and how right I was. But I really think it's the fact that he has a new girlfriend now, and how furious she was to find out that she was watching her son!!! And karma strikes again :)
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