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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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deleted_user 11/04/2007

My BF suffered from depression for nearly a year taking medication. Came off medication for three months but sadly went back on medication again.

Things at work getting worse for him, and that causes a lot of anxity, and disturbed sleep, too.

I am here for him, and he will talk to me whenever he has worries, but I just want to assure him and make him feel better. Of course there is no instant words or action to make him
better, but I wondered if there is anything to make him feel even a little easier, I would like to know...

What sort of things make you feel better???

DogCrazy 11/04/2007

Maybe going to his optmentments with him, reading boks on deppression so you can understand what he is going through.
A nice shoulder for him if he needs to cry.
Cognitive therapy would be a wondreful idea for him, it helps you turn those negative thoughts into realistic ones, gives you alot more power over the illness, maybe he or both of you could talk to his therapist or doctor about this.
Also they may just not have found the right medication for him yest, it can be trail and error.
You Are A Wonderful Freind To Him In Wanting To Help!
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deleted_user 11/04/2007

I guess it makes me feel better to know that someone is there for me so it sounds like you are helping in that way.....it's a fragile situation because you don't want to do too much but I think emotional support is key......

deleted_user 11/04/2007

It sounds like you are being a wonderful support to him, by being concerned, wanting to help, wanting to understand. Try taking walks together, if his job is too stressful, maybe he should look into another position (or transfer). Encourage him to try relaxation techniques/deep breathing exercises. You can find many recorded ones that walk you through the exercises. Having somone to turn to, to lean on and who sticks by us are great blessings:)

deleted_user 11/05/2007

Thank you for your message! Cognitive therapy sounds very interesting. Can GP refer him to Cognitive therapy?

deleted_user 11/05/2007

Thank you for your messages. I am trying to be there for him, and listen to him.

Is there anything I shouldn't do or say???

deleted_user 11/05/2007

Do not tell him it is all in his head. Do not call him crazy. Do not tell him to grow up. Do not tell him to get over it. Do not tell him to snap out of it. Do not ignore him. Do not call him names or swear at him. Do not yell at him. Do not dismiss him. Do not speak condescending towards him.
I have had people treat me this way and it will only make things much worse. I think you show concern for you BF and I think you are doing all the right things. Sometimes just listening can help a lot.

deleted_user 11/05/2007

I totally agree with ellei. Some of the hardest things I've had to deal with were statements like, 'It's all in your head', 'you better snap out of it, or they'll put you away', 'You have kids that are relying on you', 'You're a man, this is a woman's disorder'. It seems to me from the things you've shared here, that he is very fortunate to have you by his side:)

DogCrazy 11/05/2007

Dear Emily
your freinds physciatric doctor is the one who should be able to get him into cognitive therapy, but do ask the regular GP because he may well be able to help too.
Good Luck!!

deleted_user 11/05/2007

wow thats great he has you! i already think your doing a good job. just continue to love hm, and hug him , and hold is hand on his hard days,

deleted_user 11/05/2007

Thank you everyone! Pheeww, I have never said any of those words. I know those are the worst things you can say. But funny thing is he tells me snap out of it, though!! :-)

deleted_user 12/10/2007

i am going through this with my boyfriend, trouble is he lives 3 hours away, which makes it hard, we have been together for 4 years, talking every day, now he sometimes goes 3 or 4 days with talking to me, i try to send him e-mails, text etc, for support, but i don't know what else to do, his anxiety/depression started about 3 week ago. any advice? and is this normal

deleted_user 01/02/2008

I am so sorry for delay in answering. I am in exactly same situation. My BF lives far, but we talk everyday, text each others etc...

I am no expert on this, I am just doing whatever I can do, which is just be there for him, and listening to him. Sorry if I am no help to you.

deleted_user 01/03/2008

thats ok, i actually haven't talked to him in almost 3 weeks, so i am not sure what i am feeling anymore.

deleted_user 01/03/2008

ohh.. I know it mush be hard for you. I have not experienced not talking to my BF for so long, so I couldn't tell you much, but don't give up on him if you love him.

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