I dropped the therapist that told me that I "choose to be unhappy". I was born to an abusive alcoholic and a mother that chose to abandon me. Did I choose this? I was told four different stories of why my mother left (or according to my father, why he took me away). I don't care for any of the stories. None of them was good reason for leaving an innocent infant. Did I choose this?? Did I choose to be shuffled around from one home to another?? Did I choose to be separated from all my sibs and raised alone?? Point is: I don't think anybody CHOOSES to be a victim. It is not a happy place. If unhappiness is all you've ever been taught, where's the CHOICE? Take a look at the other discussion about victims. AubreyJane is the only one that didn't show ANGER. And I'm not saying that noone had the right, everybody had the right. Even the person that started it had the right and took full advantage of it after admonishing someone else for being angry. The article was written to evoke response as AubreyJane said and when that response came back he (or she) didn't like it. That was a choice. In life circumstances, there is NO choice. It is thrust on us.
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