Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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understanding anxiety/depression

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i do not have anxiety, but my boyfriend does, he started having anxiety attacks only about 3 weeks ago, has been to the emergency room twice, and his doctors appt is not until next week. i need a little help i want to be supportive and help him as much as i can, we do not live together, but have been together for 4 years, we talk everyday, except recently, since the attacks started, now he'll have a couple of good days, then i will not here from him for a couple of days, i make sure to e-mail him or text him everyday with i love you, i am here for you, etc. i guess my question is...is this part of anxiety, him being distance and not wanting to talk to me, and when i talked to him on friday, i noticed that he sounded like depression was starting, i always thought anxiety was caused by trauma in your life, the only thing that happended to him is he turned 30 (1st trip to the er), to me i could not understand if that could cause it. could someone please help me understand, i am trying to research all that i can, so that i can be there for him in the way that i need to be. thanks
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I understand how is feeling, when your going through what hes going through u become really confused to the point of you dont want to be alone but you curl up into a ball and dont let anyone in. I know its hard to understand but thats the best way I can describe it. Just be there for him when he reaches out and he will. Its nice that you are asking for help to help him. Just be prepared for a bumpy ride, and remember that this is not his fault. Best of luck to you.
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thank you, that does help, its so hard to understand when your not going through it, i cry most everyday, and just for a phone call.
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that is the best way to explain..rolling into a ball, and wanting to isolate,,,just to be alone,,,
but remember this does not mean in any way that he does not love you. he probably needs you more now then ever,,,,just know this will not be easy for you.....good luck to you both
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i'm a guy. we have feelings but don't stay in touch with them well. if we suppress them too long, we get out of whack. men need simple, regular lives of mutual love, respect, giving, and taking. often, men give too much and bottom out. his cup is just empty that's all.
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I commend you for trying to understand i had depression its a difficult time it really makes you feel lethargic also i lost intrest in simple things when i had depression the best thing you can do is learn more and just remind him you'll get through this and you'll always be at his side , that would make me feel better so i bet it would make him feel better too i bet . We just need to know where not alone when were struggling with these disorders
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I think it's awesome that your sticking by him and thats exactly what you need to do. I suffered with anxiety attacks which lead to depression for a year before I ever went to the hospital (ironically my anxiety kept me from the hospital). I know for a fact that if my fiance wasnt in my life sticking by me and supporting me that I wouldnt be here today. Anxiety can come out of anywhere, for no reason, with no warning and VERY often leads to depression or visa versa.
The fact that your asking for help and researching on his behalf says alot about you and your love for him, just keep doing what your doing and he will open up to you eventually.
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Being distant is totally a part of it. It can make you lost interest in basically EVERYTHING- food, activities, people you love. It's really tough.
Stick by him- he needs you, even if it doesn't seem like it. :)
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Anxiety and depression often go hand in hand. I have both. You can look at it this way, anxiety is the tip of the iceberg, and where you find it, somewhere underneath lies depression. A doctor once told me this. Yes, it is a pretty normal reaction that he is having by distancing himself. He is probably embarrassed, plus going freaking crazy with the anxiety...and depression, especially whenit first hits, doesn't allow ou to move to do anything. He needs help from meds (I can't take antidepressants, and believe me, you don't want him to battle this without them although it CAN be done....this is my second time of doing it. It is just a very hard road. Try to get him to fess up to you about how he is feeling and that you only want to be supportive and help, not to criticize or tell him what to do.

Beckeroo
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yes it will be hard at first , my boyfriend and i have been together the same time but live together and he did almost the same as you and he has been there for me and it is the best thing ever, telling him everything is ok and not pushing him will make him know you are really there. sometime my bf tries to push me and ask "what is causing it?" you dont really ever know, you may never be able to pin point it. just be there for him let him know you are and talk and hug him as much as you can when hes
"sick".
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