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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Hey guys, I've had anxiety/OCD ever since I was very young, although nowadays it's much better due to exercise/meditation and other methods that I use to quell the symptoms. My main thing though is social anxiety... I have a very intense desire to be accepted by others and even around my friends I am extremely cautious of what I say and how I act (and yes, it drives me crazy). It seems I am always wondering what other people are thinking about me and yearning for their acceptance. I also find it pretty difficult to meet new people because I get scared and find it difficult to "think of things to say" (I know it's really I'm just scared I'll say something stupid, but I can't control it). This also happens to when I'm with close girlfriends sometimes if I have a sexual attraction towards them. Does anyone have any suggestions on ways to cope/fix this problem? I really just want to be free of this social apprehension that I constantly feel, or at least get rid of this intense desire for acceptance/fear of social failure. I know I'm a great person inside and I just want to let that person out.

P.S.- On a side note, I used to enjoy marijuana regularly with my friends, but now when I smoke, I feel completely trapped by the emotions I just described, and find it extremely hard to interact socially... Anyone have any thoughts on this?
deleted_user
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From another post on DS, there are many other people feel smoking pot elevate their anxiety. I also hear it makes some people really moody. Has your situation got any better since you stop smoking pot?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well ,yes and no. If by "situation" you mean becoming friends with people who I had wanted to before I quit and doing better in school. But the anxiety is still there just like it has always been, and marijuana increases it instead of calming it like it did in the past.
DogCrazy
DogCrazy
Never treid marajana or anything like that but have all the social anxiety issues you do.
Think people are mad at me, talking about me, think im stupid.
I start to sweat when people look at me and often get very tounge tied not knowing what to say at all to point of not being able to communicate at times, im sure people notice at times but i try and put brave face on it and fake my way through it, pretending im confident even though im not.
This is the only way i know of coping with it.
I also dont like being looked at so when people do i always smile, i most often get a smile back which makes me feel good, if not i just try and ignore it.
Maybe your councillour would have some thoughts and ides on this one, im sure he would.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thanks alot man, its good to know there's other people out there like me. And yea I'm probably going to start seeing my counselor again soon so I'll see what he has to say.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My dr told me that I "belonged here" what he meant was I belong in the world. Acceptance is a big thing, and it has take me over 50 yrs to discover this and I only recently have discovered this. I too was like you for a long time. God wants you here and accepts you for who you are. Any yes, stay away from the Pot, take it from an older lady who's "been there, done that". God Bless You.
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