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Oksy so my fiance has major trust issues. I guess at first you trusted me better, but I have never cheated on him. I am always home or with him, I rarely go out. He always say that when things don't make sense he knows that I am lying. First of all, I deserve trust. I am serious. I don't lie to him and the things that he accuses or questions me about are so stupid. I am tired of it, I don't know how to get him to realize he has to trust. I am so tired of always having to defend myself, when I am not even doing something wrong. What is the deal? Oviously he is insecure, but it isn't just about other guys, it is other stupid stuff he accuses me of. UHHHH! Drives me crazy how do I stop this? What should I say?
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One thing I will say is that I am fond of the saying, those that accuse are the ones do.
What it sounds like is he is feeling insecure like you said. What kind of questions have you asked him already as to why he thinks you cheat?
You say you are with him all the time...maybe that's a part of the problem? I have been through a lot in the past year that has basically taught me that one of the most important parts of a healthy relationship is being able to spend time apart, and having separate lives. We all sometimes need a night out with friends, or even just a few hours alone to think our thoughts. While it may seem sweet that he wants to be with you all the time, it's obviously driving you up the wall.
I hate to say it, but the only way I was able to deal with the fear of losing my ex, and all the distrust that came with it, was to lose him. We broke up for a lot of reasons, but one of the bigger ones was that I simply couldn't trust him, and he couldn't stand the accusations anymore. It took that blow for me to finally be able to confront my distrust and look back into my past and begin the healing process.
If you are concerned about this now, I can only say that, without help, he will probably just keep getting worse. Not only do you deserve trust, but he should be completely comfortable with the woman he has chosen to spend forever with. Have you considered couples counseling? If I were going to marry someone with trust issues, I would want to get them resolved before my walk down the aisle. It may be that there is something in his past that is keeping him from fully trusting you, and it's obviously weighing you down. For his sake, but more for yours, explain to him that you love him, but his trust issues need to be addressed if he wants to continue the relationship.
If he is resistant at first, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you, but more likely that he just doesn't see it as a problem. He might try to turn it around on you...I used to do that to my ex. "If you loved me, you would be with me right now instead of out with your friends, you're probably with some other girl" etc.
I hope, for your sake, that he is not getting obsessive, because too often I have seen distrust blossom into obsession with whereabouts and then into violence and mania in an otherwise stable and loving person. I would really urge you to suggest couples counseling with a therapist or a religious leader whom you trust.
Good luck, and remember that you deserve trust and respect; don't put your needs aside to assuage him!
-Nicole
And the fact is bluedog, if he won't make that choice then you're going to have to make a choice for yourself... can you live with him like this (sounds like its already driving you nuts!) or do you need to walk away now?
If he doesn't trust you he must have a really low opinion of you and himself. Get rid and find a decent bloke!
Take care ;)