I am with you--I despise procrastination. It drives me insane. If I want anything done--I do it myself because of my anxiety over procrastinators.

THANK YOU!!!

well. proscrastination is a symptom sometimes of ADD, so find out what is behind the proscrastination . I have add and I chronically proscrastinate. I hate myself for doing it, and it drives me crazy, and makes me feel worse about myself, but it is something that I cannot change sometimes, I can't explain it. I don't like being a procrastinator, I don't, but I do put stuff off until last minute. So does my husband, we both are ADD, we get nothing done in terms of paperwork and stuff. We do ok in other areas of our lives, I am never late for an appointment, I am never late for paying bills, but late when it comes to processing difficult tasks. Like putting together my tax documents, that is something I DRED.

I'm with elisha, ADD and a procrastinator. Like elisha, taxes are a big deal for me; I'm always late with them. When people do stuff for me I am initially thankful, but it also reinforces my procrastinating ways. And like elisha it's a sore spot. I beat myself up about it. If someone nags me about it, I only feel worse and procrasitinate more. If someone knows a way out of this, please share it. Anyway, your post helps me see what its like for those who live or work with me. My procrastination makes them anxious. . . . That sucks. But thanks for the insight.

I didn't realize that there might be an association with that and ADD.But he does this with everything!

How old is your son? Does he have trouble staying focused/paying attention? Is he easily bored?

One thing that helped me overcome procrastination was if my mom or a teacher would help me with a task. For example, if my mom said, "Clean up your room," I would go in my room, feel overwhelmed, look around helplessly see something interesting like a game and start playing. An hour later when my mom checked back, my room was still a total mess. But if instead of yelling she said let's clean it up together. I could then take my cue from her and together we could clean things up. The next time she didn't have to help me as much and eventually I would get to the point where I could do it myself. I just needed help getting started.

I like the way gvlaw presented what they do--that is a great idea and I will have to try that myself with the procrastinator in my life--I know he does not have ADD or anything like that-he is just plain lazy about getting thing done.

He's 37!His excuse is,he works all the time.Please,we've all had jobs but still had to make the time to do things without putting them off forever.He also doesn't have ADD.

I procrastinate quite a bit as well. Try getting him a Franklin Planner and encourage him to use it. That has helped me quite a bit.

I hate to ask this but did you make him do any chores as a kid? I have learned that making kids responsible for certain jobs around the house instills a sense to share in responsibility. I for one had many chores as a kid and did not get an allowance for doing them. We had to do them or else--but as an adult I see that by doing them--I know that I hate to see certain things and therefore I get them done right away. I am not trying to blame you as a parent I am just giving you an example.
My father never made my mother do anything around the house--use kids had to it all--well now that us kids aren't home to do he yells at my mom all the time for being lazy--us kids tell him--DAD YOU CREATED THAT MONSTER--NOW YOU DEAL WITH IT--do you understand what I am trying to say?--there has to be some kind of ground rules in your house and in your life--even with your kids--my son is not even 2 yet and we work with him on only having one book at time out for reading, and when he is done with it, it goes back in the cabinet--he is really good about doing that--his toys is another story!!!!!

reply #10-You are so right,I should have had the kids do more when they were young.But what about when their supposed to be somewhere at a certain time and they have 5 different things to do first even though theres only a few mins. left.Everythings left till last min.And I was never like that when they were little or now.It makes me nuts!

well as an adult they should NO BETTER by now, YOU cant run there life you can only tell them by doing what they are doing only reflects against them as a person and if they like that negativity to reflect on them then there are some underlying issues that they need to resolve. I hear your frustration and is all I can is if they cant live by the rules of the house--THERES THE DOOR, don't let it hit them in the butt on the way out. I think its time he/she stands up themselves in life and if they fail well its by there own actions. As a parent you can only do so much for them-there comes a time when they have to fend for themselves. My sister has gone through it with her 21 year old now 3 times--and guess what she is back again--My sister is besides herself. I wish you luck.

I am totally with you, AND I am too a procrastinator sometimes.

sorry...i hate to say this but im a procrastinator, and i know that it drives everyone in my family nuts!!Dont know what to say about it except i move to my own pace not the worlds!

i also cant stand ppl who put things off. im more of the type of person i want it done now. i tell my kids to do something and get upset if they dont even move within a minute. maybe patience leaves when anxiety enters?