I'm with you there, was seeing a therapist, things were going ok even. Then my last appt with her, 15 mins in and she told me that she can not help me, and that i need to look elsewhere. Came outta the blue -was completely not expecting that. So I too am now on my own-and don't even have the artener to go too.

I think the biggest way friends could help me, is just being there and listening. I never expect them to understand or respond -they have not been there.

MyIzzy is right. Your friend just need to be there to listen and a hug helps every now and then too.

I had a psychiatrist dump me in the beginning. He specialized completely in anxiety. Had written several books on it. Came highly recommended. After about 3 mos, he told me that his treatments weren't working and there was nothing else he could do. i was devastated! A week later I called him for a referral to someone else and he wouldn't return my calls. Ya know how i look at it? It was like a failure to him. It wasn't ME, it was HIM. He couldn't help me so instead of keeping me on as a challenge to help, he dumped me because he FAILED. I pu it all on him.

I'm on my own too. The best shrink I had for 3 years took another job somewhere in another state. I have yet to find a new one. My GP is continuing with my meds, but he is at a loss as it's not his specialty. I'm PDOC hunting.

That first one should've stuck it out............ if he was THAT smart and had all those published books............. he should've stuck it out and maybe later he could've helped me and he could have written a whole NEW book that could've helped us ALL. His loss.

WELL! Thats some therapist u had! I'm so upset she'd do that to u! Thats highly unprofessional! Its not ur fault, it sounds to me like ur therapist was incompetent, dont beat urself up over it.

I am so sorry you are going through this. Talk as much as you need to. My therapist is a Godsent and she has helped me greatly.

i have the same communication problems... once you start helping others to help you, they wonder why you need help in the first place - its a complicated one.. soz about your therapist, they dont dump you! you just move on; my long term therapist is too... i dont know what else to say really, you've got to keep talking to people and see where it lands you.

It sounds like some docs, if they don't see improvements, get rid of patients in order to skip on liabilities. If they don't see improvement but keep someone around and then something happens like a suicide, the doctor will probably get sued. It's a disgusting unfortunate situation...but I guess you can't blame them either.

It's probably better to find a doctor that you click with anyway.

I had a counsillor do that to me but now I kinda think it was partly my fault... he was trying to challenge me with baby steps and I didn't feel ready. He told me there was nothing he could for me if I wasn't going to try to help myself in the process... he was quite true actually... it's like a dr. trying to treat someone with lung cancer who won't even try to quit smoking... must get frustrating.
The best way for family and friends to help you is to do a little research into anxiety disorders so they can realize it's a real problem and not just you wanting to be babied.
Something that helped me and my hubby big time was watching an oprah show about anxiety and they discuss how family and friends can help them. I'll find the url and post it next. Watch the "after the show clip" and see if you can get a copy of the show to watch with your loved one. It's the best eye opener my hubby could have had and he has been more helpful ever since.
No one wants to hear it but the BEST way a loved one can help is to help YOU push yourself little by little. You can't get over it until you start facing and concoring your fears and phobias no matter what medicine you are on.

http://www.oprah.com/tows/pastshows/tows_past_20010301.jhtml

What an awful thing! I don't know what I'd do if my doc dropped me, probably mess me up. I agree with linduh. HE FAILED, it's not you....

Cant they refer you somewhere else if they dont want to see you?

wow, I have had this very thing happen to me twice. I felt so abandoned. I am finally getting along with someone. It is funny how this therapy thing works: it seems to get werse before it gets better.