Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I posted a while back about my 17 year old son. He suffers from severe panic/anxiety attacks!!! I also believe that he is Bi-Polar.
He's really having a difficult time right now. He had another break up with a girl friend recently, and is once again spiraling out of control. He have finally agreed to seek counseling, and he has an appointment on Wednesday with a Psychologist.
I had to ask him to move out 8 weeks ago because he was totally out of control, verbally abusive to me, and I didn't feel safe in my own home. I offered him help and he refused, so I told him that he would have to live somewhere else. He moved out 2 weeks later and is now living in the Portland area which is about 80 miles from me. He lives with two college students. He has a part time job and is starting college courses winter term. He often can't go to work because of his condition.
He continues to call me many days out of the week in the middle of the night freaking out. I've had to take a "tough love" stand and am not willing anymore to drop everything to help him when he isn't willing to follow through to help himself.
Friday night, he kept me up throughout the night crying and freaking out. I couldn't console him at all. He had been using Marijuana and had drank alcohol which makes his anxiety worse!!!!! This continued all night through yesterday. His Dad who I'm not married to anymore drove to Portland and brought him to back here where we live. This is the first time his Dad has done anything at all to help. He didn't know how to handle him, so he called me over to help. I told him that I thought he should take him back to Portland to his apartment and leave him there. I really feel that he has to hit rock bottom before we can get him the help he needs.
My ex-husband did that.
This is now affecting my health and well being. I don't know what to do to help him. I feel so lost and alone in all of this. I'm finally trying to listen to the professionals who have told me that I need to take a "tough love" stand and wait until he will take the help he really needs. It's hard to do as a Mom, but I've tried everything else, and it's not working, so I'm going to try this now.
Any help would be so appreciated!!!!!!!
He's really having a difficult time right now. He had another break up with a girl friend recently, and is once again spiraling out of control. He have finally agreed to seek counseling, and he has an appointment on Wednesday with a Psychologist.
I had to ask him to move out 8 weeks ago because he was totally out of control, verbally abusive to me, and I didn't feel safe in my own home. I offered him help and he refused, so I told him that he would have to live somewhere else. He moved out 2 weeks later and is now living in the Portland area which is about 80 miles from me. He lives with two college students. He has a part time job and is starting college courses winter term. He often can't go to work because of his condition.
He continues to call me many days out of the week in the middle of the night freaking out. I've had to take a "tough love" stand and am not willing anymore to drop everything to help him when he isn't willing to follow through to help himself.
Friday night, he kept me up throughout the night crying and freaking out. I couldn't console him at all. He had been using Marijuana and had drank alcohol which makes his anxiety worse!!!!! This continued all night through yesterday. His Dad who I'm not married to anymore drove to Portland and brought him to back here where we live. This is the first time his Dad has done anything at all to help. He didn't know how to handle him, so he called me over to help. I told him that I thought he should take him back to Portland to his apartment and leave him there. I really feel that he has to hit rock bottom before we can get him the help he needs.
My ex-husband did that.
This is now affecting my health and well being. I don't know what to do to help him. I feel so lost and alone in all of this. I'm finally trying to listen to the professionals who have told me that I need to take a "tough love" stand and wait until he will take the help he really needs. It's hard to do as a Mom, but I've tried everything else, and it's not working, so I'm going to try this now.
Any help would be so appreciated!!!!!!!
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
But it is really hard for someone that does not have an anxiety disorder to understand what someone that has one is going through.
It is one of the worst things that can happen to a person. And it can spiral out of control and get helping is important but can be hard.
Just be patient with him.
I really appreciate your comment.:) Thanks so much!!!
Vanda....I understand how you feel!! It's hard enough dealing with our own feelings of anxiety, but when you add all of the other family dynamics, it can be down right impossible!!!! I'm so sorry that you're having to deal with such things, but know that I will keep you and your family in my prayers. (((hugs)))
You offered your help and he refused. What more could you do. Just let him know you still love him very much but can't help him anymore until he gets help. I called my mom up too when I had panic attacks. She would tell me and my brother to have a nice hot cup of tea. This sounds silly but it made us both stop hyperventilating. But I still needed to go for help myself. It helped some to understand what I was going through. Before that I didn't know much about panic attacks. You also need to take good care of yourself before it takes too much toll on yourself.
It is very tough as a mom to see your child suffer in anyway. I think you are doing the right thing. If this the first time dad has done anything to help that is so sad.