So glad to hear you are better now. What do you think helped you most? My daughter loves school but is so scared of change when it occurs she just won't go even though she knows she'll be successful once she's there an hr or two. It's mornings it hits her. Homeschooling is not an option. Any advice for her?

I sure do. Mornings were really bad for me too. Why isnt home schooling an option may I ask? Well, just let your daughter know that if things get to hard, not graduating highschool isnt the worst thing that can happen, and there are other ways to get her diploma.

What calmed me down was just understanding my disorder. I wasnt diagnosed with it until my senior year, and I had it since sixth grade.

Just tell her that its better to stick it out now. I felt terrible after I dropped out of highschool, and it made me have a resolution that no matter what, I would finish nightschool. I just listen to my ipod the whole time and it calms me down.

I fear homeschooling would allow her to escape and not deal with her anxiety. She misses out on social (not all) events now because of her anxiety and being home away from a social environment might make it worse. Of course finances come into play as well. It would be a life change to do that and all of that would affect her as well. Feel completely lost and helpless here.

It is definatley a good idea not to lock urself up when dealing with anxiety, but is she being bullied at school? Sometimes its best to let kids get homeschooled if they simply can not cope with the highschool environment.

I dropped out of highschool myself because I just couldnt handle it. That could be what makes her so anxious, that type of envrionment. If you did homeschool her, just make sure you get her outside everyday for other things. For instance, my parents and I go the gym everyday and we bowl once a week. If you can't afford homeschooling, thats undestandable. Thats one reason my parents never homeschooled me.

Does she see a counsellor or perhaps have a support group like this one?

yes, she has a therapist & dr she sees. I've bought many books for her to read. her fears relate to change, situations she cannot control, doesn't feel comfortable in at school. she isn't bullied, has lots of friends. a support group is a great idea but I'd want kids her own age for her to talk with.

do you continue to see a counsellor/therapist or did you work things out on your own?

I have had anxiety for as long as I can remember. Yes, as a child. I had migraines, canker sores, insomnia and bruxism as if that is not enough evidence. I too was bullied. I wore glasses since I was 3 and let me tell you it made me a target for criticism both amongst my peers and unfortunately my family as well. I moved often growing up and I went to different schools. It was very hard on me. I was bullied from about age 6 to 17. When I was in Junior High the school was so violent there was a cop stationed on campus. They had metal detectors taken out the year before I attended that school. My friends were home schooled. I asked my parents to home school me and they refused. Less than a year later I became suicidal. My best friend attempted suicide. I then came to believe suicide is selfish and I internalized all of my emotions. soozie6, if your daughter is asking to be home schooled please make sure she is not being bullied at school. You may want to talk to her teachers, counselors and school principal. If she is not being bullied she may not need home school. That is a difficult decision. I am happy you show concern for your daughter. I felt my mother was too self-involved to give a shit about me.

I dont continue to see a therapist because my mom kept trying to get me counsellors she was seeing herself. I wanted my own, and when I got a couple of my own, they were really cold so I stopped going. If I found one I liked, I'd go. I work issues out pretty much by myself, with lots of advice from people on this site, because they know how it feels. I'd reccommend any kind of support group for your daughter, as long as it has people in it that can give her a sense of being understood.

Ellei, u sound so much like me its scary. I move around a lot to, and wanted home schooling desperately. Sorry u've had it rought, glad u've hung in there.

But yeah, if your daughter is asking for homeschooling, I'd consider it as an option. I was bullied in school but I never told me mother all about it, because I had this silly feeling like this was 'my problem', not hers. I dunno.

People in general give me anxiety. It probably started with my mother screaming and yelling on a daily basis since I was a child. The classroom behavior at schools, the workplace at my jobs. Now just being in public in a grocery store, movie theather, book store, anywhere, I am irritated by most behaviors around me.

Soozie6, I just want to say that forcing your daughter to "deal with it" might not really work. I dealth with it by being forced to and it only made it worse. The longer I have to sit in stressful environments I have no control over the more destructive it has become for me. Public school may have helped me overcome shyness (I spoke not a single word from grades K-2), but it did not set me up for success later in life. The bullying, the social pressures, the hateful peers really destroyed my self worth. If I had a better family life I would have rather been home schooled.

Thank you sabishii. I am still hanging. It helps to know that other people went through similar experiences. Otherwise I feel so isolated.

Vani, that is some great advice. You don't wnt to overwhelm your daughter, or she might get stressed out and break down. Thats what happened with me, I was overwhelmed. I moved, it was my senior year, a lot of other stuff. Very well said Vani.

of course ellei! you are stronger than u think! Ever need to talk about anything, feel free to message me.

ive had it for 10 years now, but looking back ive prob had it for most of my life. i guess ive gotton used to and try to deal best i can. i think if u find the right meds to treat it, one that suits u then take them anything to help relax. i still find night times the worst for me just before i fall asleep.

my first memorywas when i was really little i would wake up afraid i was dying cuz i couldnt breath, no one knew it was anxiety but it all seems to make perfect sense now, im 27 now and most days are amazing, and a few days are terrible

Wow, I see. Thank you for sharing. Ten years, huh misty? Thats a pretty long time, I'm glad u seem to be dealing well with it now. Night time used to be a big issue with me, are u getting sleep these days?

Glad to hear most days are amazing for u luvmydog! Sorry for the few terrible days u have, but good job being so strong all those years!!