How many of us anxiety sufferers have high expectations for ourselves and for others? Do you find that you can never live up to what you set for yourself, expect from yourself? You're never good enough. How do you get out of this and stop trying to be perfect and have the world around you and everyone else perfect too? I think when we have high expectations it's inevitable that we'll be disappointed. When my birthday came in May, I was expecting it to be special in some way and it wasn't. I found myself depressed even though a friend took me to lunch. When my anniversary came in June, I thought about it for so long and we didn't have plans. I expected my husband to do something wonderful, come up with a great idea, something different, romantic, surprising. Well he didn't. The day turned out terrible with us not speaking and with me being very depressed. I hope I learned something from these two events b/c they stick out in my mind in particular. But I still find it so difficult to lower my expectations in everything I do and I expect others to be as caring and sensitive as I think I am. Any input on this topic would be helpful. Just, how do you stop it?
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