
Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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i am new here, the first time was yesterday, my boyfriend is the one with anxiety/depression, i have read everything on the internet possible to try and understand, i have even talked to doctors, i want to be as supportive as possible, we have been together for 4 years, we live 3 hours away, which makes it hard, he has only been having anxiety for about 3 weeks, which has turned into depression, i send his e-mails etc, letting him know that i am here for him, for the 1st time in our relationship, we go days without talking, he will not answer my call, e-mails, from what i think i understand, this is part of it, but today is just hard for me, any suggestions on what to do, for some reason today, i feel like given up on him. please i need advice
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I always appreciate when my friends or husband just make me laugh and forget about all that makes me worried. Staying active is key, whether it me just walking in the mall, running, or playing a board. It keeps the mind occupied and stimulated. My doc recommends "behaving badly"--doing little things you normally wouldn't (but not dangerous). For example sunbathing nude or going to a karaoke bar. I think it's supposed to help you feel a release of confined energy. Maybe you can direct him to this website or a support group in the area since it helps to know you're not alone.
Good luck
by Reneau Z. Peurifoy at Amozon.com for like $10.
This book may help you and your boyfriend.
This was the first help book I got after I saw a shrink and he gave me the title of Agoraphobia. I tend to push people away but I really need people for support. It is hard not knowing what is happening to you and not knowing how to control yourself.
He may attempt to push you away. Not only do you not understand it, but believe me, he doesn't either.
However, he WILL need his space just to be alone. Don't take offense and let him have it. Let him know that you are still close by, but let him be alone when he wants to be. Sometimes I just like to drive............. completely alone with no destination in mind.
He may get irritable with you at times. Don't take it personally. You need to figure out the best rhythm for you and him, when to leave him to himself and when to be there, and how to react if he shows direct irritability towards you.
Don't tell him that you understand because that is insulting to him. You DON'T understand because you are not the one experiencing it. No one but someone who experiences it can understand. Just let him feel and know your support............ let him know that no, you don't know how it feels............ have him tell you how it feels. It will show him you have an interest in knowing. Ask him what you can do for him at certain times to help him get thru the rough spots.
Good luck to you............ he is very fortunate to have you.
You are doing a fantastic job by just being there for him. This is the best thing that you can do as when your BF is ready to seek advice or just a bit reassurance then he will know he can turn to you.
Its a really confusing time when you suffer with any form of anxiety - it takes over every part of your life.
Dont take it personnally if he doesnt reply to emails or answer your calls - he is probably still coming to terms with what is going on.
dont forget to look after yourself too, stay strong and positive - i know its hard.
Dont give up, your boyfriend that you know and love is still there - he is just going through a hard time at the moment.
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Not to discourage you at all. But I'm afraid you're just going to have to wait for him to come to you. I know it's gotta be hard on you and you feel like the relationship is over. Go on about your life and don't let this consume it.
If it were me, I'd probably send him a cute little funny card in the snail mail about once every 3-4 weeks. Something to make him smile and to let him know you're still out there.
In it, don't write anything like you're there for him, or you're worried about him, etc. Don't reference this illness at all. In writing in it, act like everything is the same as it used to be. He needs some "normalcy" to his life. Just by sending the card lets him know you're worried and there for him, you don't need to say it inside.
Write some spontaneous in it like a funny memory of y'all, or something you might've done that very day that will make him laugh.
In the meantime, you can be reading the books, etc., and gaining as much knowledge as you can. One thing is for sure, you can't crowd his space and that's something he might be feeling right now. He needs to accept and deal with this on his on. Hopefully once he has, he will let you back in.
Hang in there. It DOES take awhile.