Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I feel a lot of anxiety when I ask for things? It may stem back to when my mother had me call my father when the alimony was late or any other messages she wanted relayed to him. I am getting better. When my husband and I were first married, it took me a long time to see what he had as mine as well. I am sure he longs for those days now (giggle, giggle).
Anyway, my brother-in-law is moving to a huge home. He said the furniture he had would not work in his new home. I offered to buy any furniture he know longer wanted. He offered us some very nice things. He said he didn't need any money for them. I am very excited. We are not in a financial position to spend a lot of money on furniture or anything else. I am excited, but I also feel ashamed and anxious.
Anyway, my brother-in-law is moving to a huge home. He said the furniture he had would not work in his new home. I offered to buy any furniture he know longer wanted. He offered us some very nice things. He said he didn't need any money for them. I am very excited. We are not in a financial position to spend a lot of money on furniture or anything else. I am excited, but I also feel ashamed and anxious.
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I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????
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A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...
I still cannot ask for things.
I avoid restaurants because you have to ask for your order.
It seems like... dirty or something, something to be ashamed of. Like everyone has a right to demand things but if we ask we're out of line, we should stay submissive and cowering in the corner.
I feel like this stems from my parents as well but I can't think of any specific events that are obviously linked to this.
I know that about half of my anxiety attacks occur when I'm put in a position to make a decision/asking for something.
I bet your brother-in-law is very excited for someone he loves to make good use of his furniture, really!! When I am put in the position where I have to accept something (used to be compliments, that was tough) usually I indicate how grateful I am but also insist to them how I truly feel. For example, if I was in your position I would say something like:
Thank you sooo much again we really really appreciate this.. I feel silly taking your furniture when you could have sold it or given it to someone else or something...
Something along those lines... usually they would reply with a "no no I WANT to give it to you" and that affirmation would be somewhat settling.
I don't know if that helped at all.
Now -i- feel silly... : )
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