Your havin anxiety attacks Ml. do they come when something is stressing you or our of the blue. Some you can talk yoursself down from others may need meds. I had them for a long time

It is anxiety. I feel like that when im at work as well. It's horrible, But go back to your doctor and don't be afraid to tell him what you'r feeling.

this is so typical if an anxiety attack, coming out of the blue - you do need help as you could close in more and do much less, thus narrowing your life...so do get some help, you really CAN get over this and live life properly again....so much good luck to you..Cathrynn X

I have my attacks mostly while at work, or if I am out having supper. I work as a pharmacy technician so when I put priscriptions through the till I get light headed and dizzy and want to get out of the situation. Once I am doing and go back to doing other things I am fine? The public dinning thing is if I am nervious I get shaky and can't seem to put the food to my mouth. Then it gets worse with the thought that the people I am sitting with are watching my shakes. Is that normal?

Yes this definately Anxiety!, does it only happen when your in a social situation? or do you have it at home too?.
You probably need some meds to help, i would go to a mental health doctor that specalises in anxiety, they will be able to help you!
Good Luck!

Honey you are a classic case of anxiety. I used to get those dizzy spells too. Get to a doc and see if they can put youonsomething. Lexapro did wonders for me. Take care and write if you need more help.

I suggest therapy of some sort as well. You need to uncover why you are anxious. For example, who gave you these feelings of self-doubt? Once you see where it comes from, you will be able to decide if the perpetrators (typically parents) had a point or not--usually not. They usually do it because they were treated that way as children or some other reason. The feelings they gave you were not about you. They were their personal problems that they were not self-aware enough to be conscious of. Therefore, typically they take it out on a child. I am sorry for how you are feeling. Get to the root of the problem. Meds help a bit but they mask the problem, they do not solve it. Plus they generally have side effects. Use them to tide you over until you can deal with the real issues head on.

These symptoms NEVER happen while at home. Which I found to be very strange, and made me unsure of what was the root of the problem. I am mostly out going while I am out, but occasionally I get the shakes and dizzy spells. The dizzy spells at work seem to be happening more frequent and now it is more like I fear that then the socializing aspect. I did lose both my parents. My father back in 1997, and my mother 2 years ago. Perhaps with me seeing my mother pass and being with her has triggered it? I really don't know. I also have been in and out of very bad relationships. Physical and mental abuse. That to could be a factor. Being a Mother I find next impossibale in finding time for myself to see a health doctor who specializes in these types of cases. Or perhaps I just don't want to hear the actual diagnosis. Or it just could be I have no idea where to begin to find one?

You mention you have been in and out of very bad relationships featuring physical and emotional abuse. Typically a person who has relationships of this nature has them because they feel like home. Was there any physical or emotional abuse perpetrated towards you by your parents as a child. This is generally where the problem originates. You mention that both of your parents have passed away. This may cause you to feel a certain amount of reluctance to re-examine old wounds. Think about it? Did they hurt you in any way? Did they specifically make you feel bad about yourself in any way? Did they hit you or did you witness physical violence in the home? Tell me about your upbringing. It is likely that this is where your problem originated.

MLou - so sorry to hear about your parents and also what appears to be anxiety. I only get mine in certain situations too. Yoga and music help me with mine. See you doctor and make him listen to you. Best of luck.

Myself I have never experienced any physical abuse by my parents, but did witness it. My father physically abused my older brother, and verbally abused my mother. I had a very ruff childhood. I tend to never speek of it only b/c I have friends with many problems who always talk about theres. I tend to be the listener who gives the advice, the rock if you will. I went from living in a brand new house to our father leaving us and our mom moving us out to an indian reservation with no running water and having to go out to an out house. Then from having a great mother, to mother who didn't pay a whole lot of attention to any of us. At the age of fifteen I left home. After 3 years of not seeing my father, he came back and then shortly after passed away. That is about it in a nut shell. Of course skipping the pages in between...

Sounds to me like there is lots of potential for picking up negative feelings about yourself or about women in general from the way your father treated your mother. By identifying with her, you would have also felt the abuse. Also it seems that you could have a general fear of loss and abandonment with your father leaving and your mother seemingly changing into a different personality type from what I can gather from your post. I can see you have childhood issues. You mentioned previously that you feel other people are judging you. Where do you think this feeling originates?

You are going to have to start really tuning into your feelings. Keep a journal to begin your path of self-discovery. Find out where the feelings originally stemed from.

From what I have read, it seems to me that these feelings experienced as a child go unexpressed and unresolved. That's why they come up in adulthood, symptomized as anxiety. A therapist or counsellor can help you re-experience the feelings and try to resolve them in your own mind.


Through this process you will eventually realize this is now, and that was then and it isn't always going to be like it was. You will open yourself to new experiences that do not carry the tone of abuse.

You will begin to heal.

Abandonment issues I would have to agree. I am in a great relationship of four years and the thought that this will end sometime stays in the back of my mined. Although I know he would NEVER turn his back on me. I have considered therapy, but never actually looked into it. I really have no idea on how to find one, or how the whole process works?

yes, it is really good to identify the anxiety...when I eventually realised it came from being in heavy bombing night after night when I was a baby and small toddler, this made a lot of sense...free-floating anxiety - that has helped me deal with it....

Well look it up on the Internet with Google. Put in your city name and free counselling women and see what comes up. If you can't get it free, you might consider paying for it. It will help you get started in dealing with your issues. This support group is also a good place where you can get advice.
Also read. Get some books on abandonment issues. Read about your problem. Educate yourself. Figure it out.

This is all about your future happiness. Don't wait. Get started.