
Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Hi there! I'm writing to see if anyone out there has as big of a problem with confrontation like I do! Little confrontation problems I have include examples of not being able to ask my roomate for her rent money if she is a couple days late, asking her to put away dirty dishes, etc. There is someone here at work that bothers me, and instead of being able to tell her to stop talking to me like crap I just say nothing and hope to get over it eventually. On a bigger scale, I used to teach first grade. When it came down to having meetings with supervisors and those above me, I would break down in tears during the meeting, even if they were just mentioning a simple thing to improve on. I left teaching because i couldn't take it anymore and now work for a small company, whom the owners i have known for a long time. Still, if one of my bosses asks me to come in to talk I freak out and become really defensive and feel like i could cry at any moment, where sometimes i do. I can not stand up for myself without crying; even when i get really mad at someone, i just cry.. I guess thats how my body reacts. I'm just concerned that I will never get over this and never be able to hold a real job because i can't react to confrontation like a normal person. Any suggestions?
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I have the "opposite" problem with confrontation. I have no problem whatsoever in confronting someone and telling them EXACTLY what I think of them or feel. I've always spoke my mind, which is what I'm told by some is part of my problem. I can't hold my tongue. What was it my mother always said, "If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all?" I never followed that rule of thumb.
Does this confrontation cause me anxiety? ABSOLUTELY! Afterwards, I am shaking like a leaf, dizzy, etc., but by then what I had to say is said and done. They don't see the anxiety that follows.
I don't do it unless I know I'm right. I will not be walked over, on top of, or hung out to dry.
I believe that comes from my years of being that person that would cry or get upset over confrontation. I never wanted confrontation. I would sit there and let them say whatever they wanted, but I would remain silent.
I don't know what changed me........... but for several years now, I no longer FEAR confrontation, just as long as I know I'm right. I FEAR if I know it's coming and I know that I'm going to be on the defensive because I was in the wrong, but if I'm wrong, I admit it and can't apologize enough.
Either scenario is a huge trigger for me for anxiety and/or panic attacks. I like my life to be on an even keel.......... I don't like arguing, I despise gossip, I can't tolerate rudeness, and I guess you could say that's why I'm more of a loner. I have PLENTY of friends, but outside of that, I am a loner and try to stay away from people or places that I think i might become confrontational. Shoot.......... I've even had friends that were treated unfairly and I've gone after the person who did it to them. You don't hurt my friends.
So............... I guess in this situation, I am different from the majority of you. I don't sit back and say nothing............ I speak my mind. And yes, sometimes that's even worse than remaining quiet.
I took a speech class, and that did help some, just being able to express something I was passionate about in a nurturing environment
I would like to know what medications are being taken for anxiety that help
When people confront me, I usually just shut down, but it's when I get angry at them or the situation that makes the tears flow, I get so upset emotionally, but just can't express it.