I'd just like to say that you are not alone, there are many people (me included) that just lose control now and again. I try walking away, counting to ten, thinking of all the great things in life and it calms me down. Still, I'd love to hear suggestions and advice from others. Sounds like you have a great hubby there, you need to hang onto him, wishing you lots of luck x

i breathe very deeply from my belly for at least 10 minutes. You can do this anywhere, anytime and it doesn't cost a dime....very calming and medically and scientifically based

Honey, you sound like me! My first fiance left me 2 weeks before our wedding. No explanation whatsoever. Just never heard from him again. Then, I was raped at knife point by some guy who followed me into a bathroom in a bar. I seem to have issues with men. PERIOD! I tried everything to get my husband to leave me the first 5 years of our marriage. I treated him like shit! He stayed. Through everything! All the rage, all the moods, all the "episodes" where I just "lost it". He was there. That's when I knew he was in it for good. I'm nice to HIM now, but if a "man" so much as looks at me wrong, I punch him in the face! As a matter of fact, my sister just recently caught her husband with another woman, and it was ME who beat the shit out of him! I ended up going to jail for it and was ordered to to go counseling, but let me tell you something....it was worth it! To answer your question, the counseling seems to be working.....and I've convinced my husband to allow me to turn out Garage into my own "workout" room! The first thing I'm going to get is a punching bag! When I feel the need to "beat something" - there it is! I hopw this helps.....and remember......you're not alone. Take Care! - Tara

I'm a guy, and I understand how you can be angry at guys. I am not too impressed with them, either. My anger and rage has eaten me alive for many years....In the last few, I decided that I was going to begin getting a handle on my anger. I reached a point in my life where I was tired of my rages and hurting others with the things I said when I was so angry.
I was severely abused by both of my parents when I was growing up. Sexually, mentally, and physically. Most of my anger still stem from that, even though I am 41 now.
I am tired of being angry. So. I am learning how to respond to my triggers in new ways--ways that preserve my well-being and the well-being of others.
If you want to change badly enough, you will find the way.

I am in the same boat. Except for the fact that the one man that has hurt me worse than anyone in the past is my husband. He has changed. But he use to look at porn, cheat, lie, manipulate...but he changed. Now the only problem is my anger that i still have for him has not gone away.

I also lose my temper at my husband, even though he means a great deal to me, and I worry a lot that he will leave over it someday. I haven't been able to figure out how to stop, but I always make sure to apologize afterward so he knows that the "good" me is back in charge. He knows that my family is somewhat dysfunctional and that I get most of this from them.
It's really okay if you haven't worked out how to stop the anger yet, you're human after all. Just try to be as kind and loving as possible when you're not mad and that will balance out the bad times.
:) JP

well like all of us i kno how ya feel i luckily have a great guy finally and take my anger out on him but he deals with me so great and understands but its not right i also correlate it w/ men but i wasnt abuse but my dad was an alcholic and my ex boyfriend cheated like it was his job but ur lucky to have found this site it was a blessin for me jus havin the support from all the members and knowin that ur not alone is key ull find sum great advice from here so g luck but remember breathe and try to think or walk away from the situation and talk to sumone about it before u fly off the handle and believe me thats the hardest thing ;)