Have you tried talking to your friend (calmly, of course!!) and asking her why she feels you are not capable of looking after her kids? The only way you are going to be able to get this to stop eating at you is to talk to her about it.

i cant talk to her that is my problem i haver a temper and that wont work for me all i get is well u cant hold a job down, hell she said u dont clean your house everyday u have a lot of days u cant get out of bed so how are u going to do this well i was doing fine it is the fact it was done and dissused behind my back that makes me mad she couldve have asked me about not go to the other parent and dissus it first without my knowledge u just dont do that to your friends

I can see why you are hurt and I am sorry you feel this way. But since you even admit you have a bad temper, maybe she was afraid of what your reaction would be if she told you about it.

YEAH WOLVE JLB72 IS PROB. right... people do that to me because i have a bad temper... im dealing with the same thing..... had a huge blowup last week and scared the hell outof a bunch of people.....

the best, most simple thing i can tell you is that i have just learned that for every time i am pissed there is something i could and SHOULD be working on inside myself.

did you ever thank that she was jealous. She is taking away jour job becausou the in some freak way she wants to be you....or she was a scandolus b the whole time and talked junk about you the whole time