Is a little soul searching what you need? That's what seems to work for me when I get angry...and I've been angry a great deal of my life. If I can share something my grief counselor said about anger, as it pertains to the roots of anger...she said that when we feel out of control as a child and are not given choices, we become frustrated and angry. That really rang a bell with me because I don't remember being given many choices as a child.

Just something to think about. Plus, if you're pregnant, from what I know about pregnancy, the hormones can really get wacky so try to give yourself a break in that regard.

Good luck. Here's a hug.

I have children one of them is 5 the other two are 11 and 13 I do this i get angry and yell and say words they should not hear. I have found out that i have anger displacment and adhd and the adhd makes the anger worse cause i cant filter the words coming out of my mouth they just pop out. Well i am being treated for the adhd and the guilt that comes with the words i screm makes me mad too. but i have found an outlet maybe that is what you need an outlet mine may not be the best for you but i box yea i know a mean temper in boxing gloves sounds scarey lol but it works i walk in with the whole world on my shoulders and leave empty and tired by the way boxing is alot of hard work and good fitness too. That may not be something you can do I have a freind that gets on her tredmill and runs You stel have to deal with yourself but it is alot easier to deal with your self if your not ready to blow. The preg thing would make boxing hard though lol. but there is something out ther for you i am sure. hang in there.

I feel your pain. I yell at my kids and I feel so low for doing it. Now that my oldest are practically adults, they yell at me to stop yelling. Then I feel worse. Once I start, it's like I can't stop. It's not like I say things that are mean, I just yell instead of saying what I have to say in a normal tone. I have a 5 year old as well. I do not want to be yelling at him. I am tired of yelling. TIRED OF IT. Even more tired of feeling guilty for doing it and especially for hurting my children.
I am looking for other ways to get out my frustrations and practicing not doing anything before I react. I am blown around like a leaf in the wind by everything! I want to be more like a rock. A solid rock that reacts rationally and calmly.
or at least soemone who thinks before reacting!

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I am with you there. I'm bp also and suppoingly that's what happens. BUt I hate it too. I've been thinking the same thing, hope to find some help here. Let me know when you find and answer

Here is a website that has a good list the anger levels.

http://defoore.com/angerassessmentexcerpt.htm

My plan for reducing anger is to evaluate my level of anger periodically throughout the day and if I feel myself reaching higher levels, do something productive to counteract the negative angry feelings. Maybe some deep breathing exercises would help you. Or force yourself to think about the positive attributes of whoever you are about to blow up at.

Good luck and keep on trying.