Anger Management Support Group
Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.
Recently i had a very selfish and resentful moment towards a long time friend of about 10 years and expressed it very tacklessly.
An unfortunate pattern began to develop over the years where each time a big event in my life would occure, be it good bad or ugly, it would colide with the return of her manic depressive state and suicidal tendencies.
Now that i am 2 months away from having a baby and was really relying on her for some female support (as my mother has passed away some years ago) and her last telephone call to me was to let me know she had admitted herself back into the psych ward due to not coping, i felt little compassion and huge anger and resentment - i just couldn't help my self, i let it rip.
I told her i could no longer be there for her, to support her with her depression as she refused to help herself in any way with lifestyle changes (like stopping the excess binge drinking, pot smoking, over eating, no exercise and sleeping with unavailable men). I pretty much blamed her for her own depression.
She has told me to go and get f#*#!* and no longer wants me in her life what so, that i was conceited & a poisoness friend.
I feel that i simply addressed her denial that she infact makes no effort to get well and that i had to protect my self from continuing to be in a relationship that expected so much of me yet offered little in return.
Was i unreasonably selfish??? or was this a choice, a seperation that was neccesary???
A little confused!
rajati19...
An unfortunate pattern began to develop over the years where each time a big event in my life would occure, be it good bad or ugly, it would colide with the return of her manic depressive state and suicidal tendencies.
Now that i am 2 months away from having a baby and was really relying on her for some female support (as my mother has passed away some years ago) and her last telephone call to me was to let me know she had admitted herself back into the psych ward due to not coping, i felt little compassion and huge anger and resentment - i just couldn't help my self, i let it rip.
I told her i could no longer be there for her, to support her with her depression as she refused to help herself in any way with lifestyle changes (like stopping the excess binge drinking, pot smoking, over eating, no exercise and sleeping with unavailable men). I pretty much blamed her for her own depression.
She has told me to go and get f#*#!* and no longer wants me in her life what so, that i was conceited & a poisoness friend.
I feel that i simply addressed her denial that she infact makes no effort to get well and that i had to protect my self from continuing to be in a relationship that expected so much of me yet offered little in return.
Was i unreasonably selfish??? or was this a choice, a seperation that was neccesary???
A little confused!
rajati19...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
in my opinion u should give what u get and if she isant being there for u then u shouldnt be there for her but i would do it in a nice way ish like explaining to her how u feel and that u think she isant being there for u when u need her most etc
when it comes to her not helping herself the truth hurts some people more than others esp when females in the situations u r both in with hormones and pills flying all over some times u need to be extra delicate with certain subjects but it is frustrating when people moan and do nothing to help themselves every one just wants a miracle cure - dont know where from