Anger Management Support Group
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Tonight or last night (It's late here) I got kicked out of TARGET because I didn't have paperwork regarding my disability AND paperwork regarding what my Maltese dogs capacity was in regards to my disability!
WHAT?! You say!
Well...I was walking around TARGET somewhat (You know how it goes) for an hour minding my own business (at about 7pm-8pm) and my dog started his normal soft alert dog bark-growl! I looked around and didn't notice anything weird, but I thanked him for looking after me and asked him what he was noticing! Then about 5-10mins. later a manager lady comes up to me..."Do you have paperwork regarding what disability you have AND paperwork regarding what your dogs capacity is in regards to your disability?"
I told her..."According to THE AMERICANS WITH DISABILITIES ACT OF 1990 there is NO law stating that I should have to tell anyone what my disability is! That is demeaning to someone with a disability and I DO NOT have to tell you what my disability is! You can ask me if I have a disability and I can say yes, but you have no right to ask me specifics regarding my condition!"
The evil lady...Well, it is a law and you need to have paperwork regarding your disability AND paperwork regarding what your dogs capacity is in regards to your disability if you want to be in this store or you need to leave this store! Otherwise I can call security and they can escort you out themselves" (gets on her ear piece and asks to be patched into the security office!)
Me..."According to THE AMERICANS WITH DISABILITIES ACT OF 1990 there is NO law stating that I should have to tell anyone what my disability is! That is demeaning to someone with a disability and I DO NOT have to tell you what my disability is! You can ask me if I have a disability and I can say yes, but you have no right to ask me specifics regarding my condition!"
Evil incarnate..." well, whatever, you need to have paperwork regarding your disability AND paperwork regarding what your dogs capacity is in regards to your disability if you want to be in this store or you need to leave this store!"
Me..."I bet you don't know anyone with any disabilities or you wouldn't be treating those with disabilities in such a uncaring manner!"
Her..."I have my own disabilities!"
Me..."I highly doubt that because true disabled people have a care and concern for all those going through disabilities that you truly lack!"
Her (All the while beating these words into my head over and over while herding me out the door!)..." well, whatever, you need to have paperwork regarding your disability AND paperwork regarding what your dogs capacity is in regards to your disability if you want to be in this store or you need to leave this store!"
Me...What is this for then huh? (waiving my cane) If I didn't need this cane I would love to just toss it out the window of a moving car, but i NEED this can! What do you suppose the purpose is for this then huh?"
Her (All the while beating these words into my head over and over while herding me out the door!)..." well, whatever, you need to have paperwork regarding your disability AND paperwork regarding what your dogs capacity is in regards to your disability if you want to be in this store or you need to leave this store!"
Me..."Listen...Whatever you believe is above you AND you are not the supreme being, even though you think you can lord over disabled people in such a demeaning manner, well, whatever you believe is above you, God, whatever, is seeing what you are doing right now and your karma will get you! Trust me, you WILL lose your job over this believe me! You actions tonight will make you loose your job I seriously mean it!"
Her (All the while beating these words into my head over and over while herding me out the door!)..." well, whatever, you need to have paperwork regarding your disability AND paperwork regarding what your dogs capacity is in regards to your disability if you want to be in this store or you need to leave this store!"
The whole time she was pushing me out the door I saw people wondering why I was being herded out and once I saw peoples faces wondering I got a little "ATTICA ATTICA" about the situation and looked in each persons face along the way..."SHE IS KICKING ME OUT BECAUSE I WILL NOT GIVE HER PAPERWORK REGARDING MY DISABILITY! THIS IS A VERY DISCRIMINATORY STORE! I SHOULD NOT HAVE TO TELL ANYONE WHAT MY DISABILITY IS!"
So she basically herded me out the door and outside the door was a guy AT a table with petitions for more children's hospitals and things like that and I basically unloaded the whole story on him of what took place and was obviously seeing red and was crying as well at the nerve of the manager lady to do such a demeaning thing!
Petition guy..."What's this world coming to? People have become sooooo hard and cold towards others! It's all about making allot of money and being better than the next guy!"
Me..."I know and if there is the slightest chance someone will get in the way or take anyones time up in the least then they just make up some bogus excuse to get you out of the way!"
Petition guy.."Did you know that TARGET can't even say Merry Christmas, I know for religious reasons, BUT they can't say Happy holidays either!"
Me..."What? They can't say Happy Holidays?!" (then another guy walks by and confirms that in fact TARGET employees have not said even Happy Holidays for years and that when an a ssociate said it one year to a customer the manager told him to stop saying it!)
At this time there were 2 mid-aged ladies talking outside as well! I couldn't hear them until my ears perked up when one said..."Well, It isn't Christmas until someone gets kicked out of TARGET!"
Me..."They kicked me out of TARGET because I wouldn't give them paperwork stating what my disabilities are!"
Petition guy..."May I ask what you disability is?"
Me..."I don't feel at liberty to say! I just go about my days and do what I have to do and don't make a stink about it! Tonight was just too much too deal with and I had to speak up! PLUS, I don't really feel like the situation is about what specific disabilities I have, it's about the fact that the manager is doing this to a disabled person and sadly I'm probably not the only one!"
The petition guy understood and wrote down my complaint to add to his list of complaints, not just my complaint but others complaints as well (HA!), then I said sorry I unloaded everything on him (he said it was OK) and I wished him a good night and was off to tell my boyfriend at his work down the street!
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When my boyfriend got wind of the situation he said how dare they do this and hurt my girlfriend and ALSO do this to disabled people who go through enough as is! Then he said after work he was gonna go there and give them a piece of his mind! He told me not to go in but that he would be VERY professional and business minded and let them know that it was not cool to do what they did!
He found another manager right at closing and asked her if she knew of a situation earlier where they threw out a lady because she would not give them paperwork regarding her disabilities!
The manager had the nerve to say it was not about me but the fact that they have food areas in the store and the dog was an issue! OK! Then why ask me for paperwork detailing my illnesses and the dog is only mentioned to determine what disabled capacity he is filling up for me? Stupid excuse! (There were no signs posted stating this flimsy excuse!)
So my boyfriend says..."I'm sorry, but that's basically a non-excuse because there are MANY places with food that if a disabled person NEEDS to have there dog there, they have their dog there! I mean, all you have the right to do under the ADA is ask her if she is disabled, get a yes, then ask if her dog is a working dog, get another yes and be done with it! You DO NOT have the right to be sooooo demeaning and unprofessional as to ask her to provide paperwork about her disabilities! I am sorry if I made you have a bad night, but you basically ruined my girlfriends night and do not think that me coming and talking to you now is how I end the matter, because rest assured there are serious and I mean serious reprocussions to your actions! The ADA WILL hear about this! Your cooporate headquarters WILL hear about this! There are serious reprocussions for what you have done! SERIOUS!"
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Another thing...about 6 months earlier (Haven't been since but maybe 2 times! They even let me in with my Maltese dog once after this time I'll describe!) I walked into the SAME TARGET and went up to a cashier and asked for a mobile cart! She looked over to where they should be and said they were out of mobile carts and left it at that! I asked to speak to the manager and the manager looked at me and said..."We are all out of carts! What we can do is get your name and I can have someone call you on the speaker load system in the store when another cart becomes available!"
I looked her dead in the eyes..."Listen! If I could walk unaided without this can, great OR if I could stand up or walk for any length of time I wouldn't even be asking for a cart to begin with! Do you really think I can stand around for you to call me over the P.A.?" (then I basically told her she just lost a customer for the day and walked out!)
I can't believe after all this I gave them another chance, but I believe in second chances most times! Just don't screw me over twice, you know and they did! They basically screwed over disabled people in general by being this way over and over I'm sure!
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So my questions are this...Do you think TARGET is wrong to treat the disabled like the way they did and demean them by asking them to prove their disability with paperwork and tell them their disability?
Do you think TARGET should get away with this?
I really don't want to let people walk all over us like this! It is wrong in every way, shape and form, don't you all agree?
I NEED YOUR HELP! If you can PLEASE write me letters that state how wrong you believe this is and how disabled people go through too much to have to be treated in such a demeaning manner that would be sooooo greatly appreciated!
If you can I also would like you to call the ADA (AMERICANS WITH DISABILITIES) hot line AND ALSO TARGET Corporate headquarters and tell them how you feel ALONG WITH the letters so not only can we just call them, but also hit these creeps from every angle possible and I can send a HUGE stack to the ADA and TARGET headquarters!
It is high time we don't stand for being treated as second class citizens just because we have diseases and disabilities we NEVER asked for to begin with! We need to stand up and unite on this! It's not just what they did to me that concerns me, but the fact that this goes on everywhere in every way like we are lesser human beings just because we are ill and IT NEEDS TO STOP! IT NEEDS TO STOP NOW! WE DESERVE SO MUCH MORE THEN THIS DEMEANING TREATMENT! I WANT THIS TO BE A BIG STATEMENT THAT PEOPLE WITH DISABILITIES ARE NOT LESSER HUMAN BEINGS! WE ARE HUMAN JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE AND IT'S HIGH TIME PEOPLE STOP STOMPING ON US JUST BECAUSE THEY SIMPLY CAN'T BE BOTHERED WITH THE TIME IT TAKES TO CARE!
PLEASE HELP ME OUT ON THIS! WE CAN IF WE COME TOGETHER MAKE OUR VOICES HEARD, OUR POINTS UNDERSTOOD AND GET THE RESPECT OF JUST BEING HUMAN LIKE ANYONE ELSE DOES AND SHOULD GET!
Take care,
Stay sane!
P.S...Here is a link to a GREAT site on service dogs and their multitude of capacities, sites on the ADA bylaws, sites on getting your service dog certified and sites on people who personally train their own service dogs...
http://diamondsintheruff.com/service_dogs.html
(Cut and paste the link into your web browser if you cannot access the link from here! It's a VERY informative link!)
Here is a copy from THE DEPARTMENT OF JUSTICE'S page that list the infoline for filing valid complaints and asking valid questions on anything pertaining to the ADA bylaws and disability rights in general...
ADA Information Line
The U.S. Department of Justice provides information about the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) through a toll-free ADA Information Line. This service permits businesses, State and local governments, or others to call and ask questions about general or specific ADA requirements including questions about the ADA Standards for Accessible Design.
ADA specialists are available Monday through Friday from 9:30 AM until 5:30 PM (eastern time) except on Thursday when the hours are 12:30 PM until 5:30 PM.
Spanish language service is also available.
For general ADA information, answers to specific technical questions, free ADA materials, or information about filing a complaint, call:
800 - 514 - 0301 (voice)
800 - 514 - 0383 (TTY)
WHAT?! You say!
Well...I was walking around TARGET somewhat (You know how it goes) for an hour minding my own business (at about 7pm-8pm) and my dog started his normal soft alert dog bark-growl! I looked around and didn't notice anything weird, but I thanked him for looking after me and asked him what he was noticing! Then about 5-10mins. later a manager lady comes up to me..."Do you have paperwork regarding what disability you have AND paperwork regarding what your dogs capacity is in regards to your disability?"
I told her..."According to THE AMERICANS WITH DISABILITIES ACT OF 1990 there is NO law stating that I should have to tell anyone what my disability is! That is demeaning to someone with a disability and I DO NOT have to tell you what my disability is! You can ask me if I have a disability and I can say yes, but you have no right to ask me specifics regarding my condition!"
The evil lady...Well, it is a law and you need to have paperwork regarding your disability AND paperwork regarding what your dogs capacity is in regards to your disability if you want to be in this store or you need to leave this store! Otherwise I can call security and they can escort you out themselves" (gets on her ear piece and asks to be patched into the security office!)
Me..."According to THE AMERICANS WITH DISABILITIES ACT OF 1990 there is NO law stating that I should have to tell anyone what my disability is! That is demeaning to someone with a disability and I DO NOT have to tell you what my disability is! You can ask me if I have a disability and I can say yes, but you have no right to ask me specifics regarding my condition!"
Evil incarnate..." well, whatever, you need to have paperwork regarding your disability AND paperwork regarding what your dogs capacity is in regards to your disability if you want to be in this store or you need to leave this store!"
Me..."I bet you don't know anyone with any disabilities or you wouldn't be treating those with disabilities in such a uncaring manner!"
Her..."I have my own disabilities!"
Me..."I highly doubt that because true disabled people have a care and concern for all those going through disabilities that you truly lack!"
Her (All the while beating these words into my head over and over while herding me out the door!)..." well, whatever, you need to have paperwork regarding your disability AND paperwork regarding what your dogs capacity is in regards to your disability if you want to be in this store or you need to leave this store!"
Me...What is this for then huh? (waiving my cane) If I didn't need this cane I would love to just toss it out the window of a moving car, but i NEED this can! What do you suppose the purpose is for this then huh?"
Her (All the while beating these words into my head over and over while herding me out the door!)..." well, whatever, you need to have paperwork regarding your disability AND paperwork regarding what your dogs capacity is in regards to your disability if you want to be in this store or you need to leave this store!"
Me..."Listen...Whatever you believe is above you AND you are not the supreme being, even though you think you can lord over disabled people in such a demeaning manner, well, whatever you believe is above you, God, whatever, is seeing what you are doing right now and your karma will get you! Trust me, you WILL lose your job over this believe me! You actions tonight will make you loose your job I seriously mean it!"
Her (All the while beating these words into my head over and over while herding me out the door!)..." well, whatever, you need to have paperwork regarding your disability AND paperwork regarding what your dogs capacity is in regards to your disability if you want to be in this store or you need to leave this store!"
The whole time she was pushing me out the door I saw people wondering why I was being herded out and once I saw peoples faces wondering I got a little "ATTICA ATTICA" about the situation and looked in each persons face along the way..."SHE IS KICKING ME OUT BECAUSE I WILL NOT GIVE HER PAPERWORK REGARDING MY DISABILITY! THIS IS A VERY DISCRIMINATORY STORE! I SHOULD NOT HAVE TO TELL ANYONE WHAT MY DISABILITY IS!"
So she basically herded me out the door and outside the door was a guy AT a table with petitions for more children's hospitals and things like that and I basically unloaded the whole story on him of what took place and was obviously seeing red and was crying as well at the nerve of the manager lady to do such a demeaning thing!
Petition guy..."What's this world coming to? People have become sooooo hard and cold towards others! It's all about making allot of money and being better than the next guy!"
Me..."I know and if there is the slightest chance someone will get in the way or take anyones time up in the least then they just make up some bogus excuse to get you out of the way!"
Petition guy.."Did you know that TARGET can't even say Merry Christmas, I know for religious reasons, BUT they can't say Happy holidays either!"
Me..."What? They can't say Happy Holidays?!" (then another guy walks by and confirms that in fact TARGET employees have not said even Happy Holidays for years and that when an a ssociate said it one year to a customer the manager told him to stop saying it!)
At this time there were 2 mid-aged ladies talking outside as well! I couldn't hear them until my ears perked up when one said..."Well, It isn't Christmas until someone gets kicked out of TARGET!"
Me..."They kicked me out of TARGET because I wouldn't give them paperwork stating what my disabilities are!"
Petition guy..."May I ask what you disability is?"
Me..."I don't feel at liberty to say! I just go about my days and do what I have to do and don't make a stink about it! Tonight was just too much too deal with and I had to speak up! PLUS, I don't really feel like the situation is about what specific disabilities I have, it's about the fact that the manager is doing this to a disabled person and sadly I'm probably not the only one!"
The petition guy understood and wrote down my complaint to add to his list of complaints, not just my complaint but others complaints as well (HA!), then I said sorry I unloaded everything on him (he said it was OK) and I wished him a good night and was off to tell my boyfriend at his work down the street!
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When my boyfriend got wind of the situation he said how dare they do this and hurt my girlfriend and ALSO do this to disabled people who go through enough as is! Then he said after work he was gonna go there and give them a piece of his mind! He told me not to go in but that he would be VERY professional and business minded and let them know that it was not cool to do what they did!
He found another manager right at closing and asked her if she knew of a situation earlier where they threw out a lady because she would not give them paperwork regarding her disabilities!
The manager had the nerve to say it was not about me but the fact that they have food areas in the store and the dog was an issue! OK! Then why ask me for paperwork detailing my illnesses and the dog is only mentioned to determine what disabled capacity he is filling up for me? Stupid excuse! (There were no signs posted stating this flimsy excuse!)
So my boyfriend says..."I'm sorry, but that's basically a non-excuse because there are MANY places with food that if a disabled person NEEDS to have there dog there, they have their dog there! I mean, all you have the right to do under the ADA is ask her if she is disabled, get a yes, then ask if her dog is a working dog, get another yes and be done with it! You DO NOT have the right to be sooooo demeaning and unprofessional as to ask her to provide paperwork about her disabilities! I am sorry if I made you have a bad night, but you basically ruined my girlfriends night and do not think that me coming and talking to you now is how I end the matter, because rest assured there are serious and I mean serious reprocussions to your actions! The ADA WILL hear about this! Your cooporate headquarters WILL hear about this! There are serious reprocussions for what you have done! SERIOUS!"
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Another thing...about 6 months earlier (Haven't been since but maybe 2 times! They even let me in with my Maltese dog once after this time I'll describe!) I walked into the SAME TARGET and went up to a cashier and asked for a mobile cart! She looked over to where they should be and said they were out of mobile carts and left it at that! I asked to speak to the manager and the manager looked at me and said..."We are all out of carts! What we can do is get your name and I can have someone call you on the speaker load system in the store when another cart becomes available!"
I looked her dead in the eyes..."Listen! If I could walk unaided without this can, great OR if I could stand up or walk for any length of time I wouldn't even be asking for a cart to begin with! Do you really think I can stand around for you to call me over the P.A.?" (then I basically told her she just lost a customer for the day and walked out!)
I can't believe after all this I gave them another chance, but I believe in second chances most times! Just don't screw me over twice, you know and they did! They basically screwed over disabled people in general by being this way over and over I'm sure!
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So my questions are this...Do you think TARGET is wrong to treat the disabled like the way they did and demean them by asking them to prove their disability with paperwork and tell them their disability?
Do you think TARGET should get away with this?
I really don't want to let people walk all over us like this! It is wrong in every way, shape and form, don't you all agree?
I NEED YOUR HELP! If you can PLEASE write me letters that state how wrong you believe this is and how disabled people go through too much to have to be treated in such a demeaning manner that would be sooooo greatly appreciated!
If you can I also would like you to call the ADA (AMERICANS WITH DISABILITIES) hot line AND ALSO TARGET Corporate headquarters and tell them how you feel ALONG WITH the letters so not only can we just call them, but also hit these creeps from every angle possible and I can send a HUGE stack to the ADA and TARGET headquarters!
It is high time we don't stand for being treated as second class citizens just because we have diseases and disabilities we NEVER asked for to begin with! We need to stand up and unite on this! It's not just what they did to me that concerns me, but the fact that this goes on everywhere in every way like we are lesser human beings just because we are ill and IT NEEDS TO STOP! IT NEEDS TO STOP NOW! WE DESERVE SO MUCH MORE THEN THIS DEMEANING TREATMENT! I WANT THIS TO BE A BIG STATEMENT THAT PEOPLE WITH DISABILITIES ARE NOT LESSER HUMAN BEINGS! WE ARE HUMAN JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE AND IT'S HIGH TIME PEOPLE STOP STOMPING ON US JUST BECAUSE THEY SIMPLY CAN'T BE BOTHERED WITH THE TIME IT TAKES TO CARE!
PLEASE HELP ME OUT ON THIS! WE CAN IF WE COME TOGETHER MAKE OUR VOICES HEARD, OUR POINTS UNDERSTOOD AND GET THE RESPECT OF JUST BEING HUMAN LIKE ANYONE ELSE DOES AND SHOULD GET!
Take care,
Stay sane!
P.S...Here is a link to a GREAT site on service dogs and their multitude of capacities, sites on the ADA bylaws, sites on getting your service dog certified and sites on people who personally train their own service dogs...
http://diamondsintheruff.com/service_dogs.html
(Cut and paste the link into your web browser if you cannot access the link from here! It's a VERY informative link!)
Here is a copy from THE DEPARTMENT OF JUSTICE'S page that list the infoline for filing valid complaints and asking valid questions on anything pertaining to the ADA bylaws and disability rights in general...
ADA Information Line
The U.S. Department of Justice provides information about the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) through a toll-free ADA Information Line. This service permits businesses, State and local governments, or others to call and ask questions about general or specific ADA requirements including questions about the ADA Standards for Accessible Design.
ADA specialists are available Monday through Friday from 9:30 AM until 5:30 PM (eastern time) except on Thursday when the hours are 12:30 PM until 5:30 PM.
Spanish language service is also available.
For general ADA information, answers to specific technical questions, free ADA materials, or information about filing a complaint, call:
800 - 514 - 0301 (voice)
800 - 514 - 0383 (TTY)
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
It's a matter for all of us to not let people put us down on a constant bases just because we are dealing with things we never asked for to begin with!
We need to stand up for ourselves and each other because we ALL are in this fight of pain and disease together and it is high time that we stood up for ourselves and each other!
If we as a community of "Pain Sufferers" cannot understand this plight and band together because WE ALL KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO BE IN PAIN AND GET LESSER TREATMENT!
NONE OF US DESERVE THIS and that is why I put this out to all of my friends and family on all my support sites I belong to because we need to see that this isn't just what happened to me, but what sadly keeps happening to all of us in numerous situations just because we are sick with things we never asked for to begin with!
This is why we need not stand for such demeaning treatments any longer and why we need to band together and let our voices be heard in full that just because we are "Sick", "Ill" or "disabled" does not make us any less human!
It was NEVER our choice to get ill in any way and we are not less just because of DISEASES WE NEVER ASKED FOR TO BEGIN WITH!"
This is very much a matter for all of us, because we know what it's like to be sick and sadly be treated as less because of it!
I'm sure you can understand as fellow "Pain Sufferers!"
I hope your days are filled with peace and relief my friend!
Take care,
Stay sane!
I thought at first that you were calling me a beotch or something! I get it now! HA!
Take care,
Stay sane!
Take care,
Stay sane!