Anger Management Support Group
Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.
I'm angry right now.
I know why it happens, I mean what situation makes me angry but I wish I knew the underlying cause of this anger. I get angry every time my boyfriend, Julio has to practice with his 2nd band. Julio and I met when I auditioned to sing for his band. He picked me, we fell in love and we've been together for 2 years. Music has been a part of our lives together since day 1. The band is still together but Julio has started playing the guitar in another band as well. You see we kicked out the original drummer from our band (which is Julio's best friend) and this guy started another band and invited Julio to play. I was against this from the start. I don't like that he's playing in another band which is almost a copy of ours. I don't like him using his creativity and songwriting skills in another band when he also uses it in ours. Songs eventually turn out sounding very similar in both bands.
I don't like the drummer very much because he isn't a person that's very easy to like. An ego-maniac who thinks he's the best and brightest human being out there.
I've tried speaking with Julio and telling him the anger that these practices bring to me.. I know it's not such a big deal, but I can't control it. I throw fits (on my own, not in front of Julio), I cry, I want to throw things, hit things. I really don't know what to do. When I've spoken to him about it he says I'm egotistical and that I shouldn't want him to leave the band just because I don't like it. It makes him happy. I mean, I want him to be happy but how can I want him to be happy there if it makes me SO unhappy? And if he says its not such a big deal then why stay there? If its not so important then leave the band and I'll be happy. But no... we can't reach a happy medium? I'm stuck feeling horrible and angry at home while he's having all the fun in the world.
My heart is racing and pumping. I can't speak to him... I don't know what to do.
I know why it happens, I mean what situation makes me angry but I wish I knew the underlying cause of this anger. I get angry every time my boyfriend, Julio has to practice with his 2nd band. Julio and I met when I auditioned to sing for his band. He picked me, we fell in love and we've been together for 2 years. Music has been a part of our lives together since day 1. The band is still together but Julio has started playing the guitar in another band as well. You see we kicked out the original drummer from our band (which is Julio's best friend) and this guy started another band and invited Julio to play. I was against this from the start. I don't like that he's playing in another band which is almost a copy of ours. I don't like him using his creativity and songwriting skills in another band when he also uses it in ours. Songs eventually turn out sounding very similar in both bands.
I don't like the drummer very much because he isn't a person that's very easy to like. An ego-maniac who thinks he's the best and brightest human being out there.
I've tried speaking with Julio and telling him the anger that these practices bring to me.. I know it's not such a big deal, but I can't control it. I throw fits (on my own, not in front of Julio), I cry, I want to throw things, hit things. I really don't know what to do. When I've spoken to him about it he says I'm egotistical and that I shouldn't want him to leave the band just because I don't like it. It makes him happy. I mean, I want him to be happy but how can I want him to be happy there if it makes me SO unhappy? And if he says its not such a big deal then why stay there? If its not so important then leave the band and I'll be happy. But no... we can't reach a happy medium? I'm stuck feeling horrible and angry at home while he's having all the fun in the world.
My heart is racing and pumping. I can't speak to him... I don't know what to do.
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I went through a similar thing. I think I was more angry because I couldnt make sense of the situation and why my husband chose to do what he did. Do you feel you dont understand why he is in this other band and what benefits he gets from it> Do you feel jealous that this means he is away from you more being with other people instead of spending time with you? Thats how I used to feel anyway
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