LOL, my mother and grandmother told me I came out of the womb pissed off. I've honestly been angry for as long as I can remember. And I don't mean a little pissed, but on the verge of explosive fury all the time.

What's worse is that I know, scientifically, that being angry all the time trains my body *not* to be happy. Put simply, over the years, my biology has adapted to being angry all the time and has created more and more anger hormone receptors in my body and makes less happy hormone receptors.

Yet even knowing that, in my logical mind, I can't stop being angry. I can control it so it doesn't show like it did when I was a kid/teen, but it's still there.

That's spooky mllia, I'm a little concerned that may be how I am. Been angry so long it's my bodies natural tendancy. Hows it get fixed, or how can I project it better?

"Fixing" it is the hard part. The science behind it has a lot to do with molecular physics and biology and physiology, LOL.

Basically, it takes a concerted and concentrated effort on your part to *not* get angry. I know, I know, that's the clutch for all of us suffering from anger related problems. However, if you consciously halt the anger early and actually look for good things, happy things, you can begin to rebuild your 'happy' receptors. The anger receptors will still be there, but as they are used less they will slowly either 'die' or will be overrun by 'happy' receptors.

The whole idea of 'mind over matter/body' holds quite a bit of truth. Our brains, hormone glands especially, dictate what sorts of chemicals go out into our bodies. So, if you can move your thoughts from negative to positive, you will notice the lessening of the rage.

LOL, however, like I said, it's easier to know the logic than it is to follow it. I know this works - I began employing these techniques after the birth of my first child. However, it's very hard to shake off habits - and yes, anger is a habit. The endorphins and hormones an angry reaction pump into your system are needed by all the receptors your body has created. So in effect, you/we are addicted to anger. Sounds crazy, but there is hard science to prove this. And it's easy to slip up and fall back into old patterns.

Through determination and dedication, I can say that while I'm still furious, I don't take it out on my children. Even when I've been pushed to the brink, I have created a calm place where I seem to have endless patience, LOL, when it comes to them. So see, it does work. But it is work too.

I've been angry since that infamous teen-angst phase. I never 'grew' out of it you could say. I think what happened was I began to realize all the things my parents and others were doing to me was wrong, and I developed a sense of justice and respect for myself, and I've been angry and on the defense ever since. ;)

Well, a good portion of my life, really. But, I've been very angry for the past 3 years. But, even before that I was upset constantly. I remember my mom's friend who thought she was Dr. Phil or something--she would try to analyze me. I remember her asking me why I'm such an angry person. She also asked why I crossed my arms all the time and I got mad and said "I DON'T KNOW!!" And she then told me that I cross my arms and block out the rest of the world. When really I just like to cross my arms. I also had a english teacher who tried to be my therapist and kept asking me whats wrong with me and what was going on at home--she also would try and tell me who to hang out with and who to not. A lot of people tend to misunderstand me, its not like I want to be angry. I just have a bad temper which everyone in my family does and eventually life gets to me. But, I think I'm a good and nice person, but I don't have much patience.

MLLIA, that was actually quite helpful.

My anger issues are related to one cluster of (mostly religious) topics, and depending on how those things are playing out in my life I have more or less anger overall in other parts of my life.

I'm angry over unresolvable/institutional issues as they play out in my personal life and relationships. I have been raging angry about them for almost 25 years now. It puzzles me that on some days simply remembering the original events can still make me scream my throat raw.

It will start out with some trigger (and at this time of year, with all the xmas stuff around, the triggers are unavoidable), I'll get stuck in some mental loop, getting more and more worked up until I'm shrieking in my car. It's really hard to change the subject once it gets started. Tends to happen more when I'm under stress. But why should something that happened 25 years ago still make me as angry as if it had just happened?

Ive been really angry most of my life. I had certain things happen to me in my past that I think have made me this way now. Like if I drop something on the floor Id get pissed off and curse at the world for that instead of saying "oops that was an accident" Or if someone is in my way I get angry instantly and want to push them. I think sometimes your atmosphere can make you who you are. I notice when I do things I actually enjoy I seem less upset and not as edgy. When you notice yourself angry and upset all of the time for many many years I feel its hard to be happy at all. I think its a matter of will power to try to get yourself out of the anger issues. Its a really really hard thing to do. I actually started therapy a week ago to see if I can help resolve some of my anger issues.

I have always had them, even as a baby I would have rage fits. I was born with it, it is normal, withought it I would be weak.

My anger stems from my own issues, but I think a major part of it is to accept that yes, I am angry for such and such reason. I know I've learned to control my anger to a point, but this last year hasn't been easy on me. Every since my Mom hooked up with her boyfriend I have had a hard time putting things to the right. I know I lost my temper many a time and that cost me too much.

For the most part, anger is a reaction and in most cases, its natural. I remember when I could have been the happiest person on the planet and I would just glance at people and they would scatter away from my presence. I don't think that was a ego boost instead it only led me to want to actually be kinder and learn to control my anger. If you feel normal and your angry then I think you can control it if you try hard enough. I believe we all can control if we just put forth the effort to want to. Do you know what I mean?

me being pregnant my hormones r all over the place but b4 that i have kept m anger bottled up im not 1 2 go physco but piss me off and yes i will

I've always been an extremely opinionated person who loves to start fights...and I don't know why. I fight with everyone and anyone I can and I'm always filled with this aggression so much that I make myself sick. I don't know why I'm such a pissed off chick, but people get scared of me sometimes....and I'm a pretty small!

I have deff. been angry since I was able to express emotions through words which was about 2 years old. I don't know I just saw things go on around me and I didn't know how to take it or what was going on and it made me mad. I always tried to find answers for things that I couldnt get. I've just always had a rage problem

I'd have outbursts all the time for no reason and this has been going all the way from then till now and I'll be 17 jan. 3, 2008.

I've been on different medications and stuff and its like I feel a good feeling from being angry sometimes. like i hate hurting others i love but at the same time i get this rush from being angry and selfish and mean.

I cant explain it but I've definitly tried to overcome it a lot more in certain situations.

I'm guessing my real anger started in my first years of high school .. I felt like I could never measure up to my dad's expectations.

I know I am smart, talented, funny and a good person .. but I have so many insecurites about "me" it has just affected my whole existance.

I have been angry since I can remember... mainly though the last 6 years I have been uncontrollable

Fiddler, I empathize with you on the triggers. There are things that start a chain reaction, which left alone, will spiral out of control, until I'm so enraged, I'm deafened by the echoing 'whoosh' of my pulse in my ears.

When one of those triggers happen, I have to consciously put the kibosh on the train streaming into chaos. It doesn't work all the time, but something I find that works is that the only power the past has over me is what power I give it.

Memories are potent, they engage a lot more than just visual imagery. But it's over, for bad or good. The kind of anger I have the most problem with now is due to situations that are yet to come, or are in the now, where I feel I have no control.

ROFL, I know, I sort of exchanged my out of control rage (though the rage is still there, don't mistake me) for an extremely controlling personality. I don't know that its better, but it is less caustic than bleeding anger all over my children.