
Anger Management Support Group
Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.

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I have been an angry guy for most of my life, but the past 8 years have been the worst, mainly for my youngest son who is ADHD. I took the anger manangement classes (court ordered) and learned the whole respond rather then react, however for me one sec I can be sweet and loving the next I am on top of my little one stripping his cloths off of him because he doesnt want to get himself ready for school, and unfortantly I feel good about what I am doing, that is until I hear the screams and crys from my children telling me to stop. Now before I get crucified I have never struck any of my children, the closeset I come to a spanking is giving them a swat on the butt. Unfortantly I am a big guy and look like a biker and have the attitude to back it up. I am straight forward if you are rude or disrepectful I will put you in your place, and ppl don't argue with me, that is unless your my kids. Don't get me wrong I love my boys they are my world, The nephews and necies think I am the greatest Uncle. My children have told me that they are not afraid of me but know that When Daddy is mad stay away, from him, And that is the part I hate that they know what I am like.
I have not hit any of my kids, but my fear is one day I might and that scares me to death. I feel I left they would be safer, my wife disagrees telling me that I am a great father, I just have to let things slide and not be some stressed about the little things (She is a nurse and no she does not enable me either) she will be the first to put me in my place, and yes she has seen the monster in me, and know's how to deal with him!
Although advice will be appreciated however I just wanted to get this out I feel it helps to just tell my story and see who relates to this and what they do to get through it all.
I have not hit any of my kids, but my fear is one day I might and that scares me to death. I feel I left they would be safer, my wife disagrees telling me that I am a great father, I just have to let things slide and not be some stressed about the little things (She is a nurse and no she does not enable me either) she will be the first to put me in my place, and yes she has seen the monster in me, and know's how to deal with him!
Although advice will be appreciated however I just wanted to get this out I feel it helps to just tell my story and see who relates to this and what they do to get through it all.
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My dad had a bad temper. He could be really fun and loving one minute and really aggressive the next. Even as a child, I understood that he was hurting and I wished for him to be happier. But I always knew he was crazy about my mom and me.
I won't criticize you. It can't be easy to work through these issues in public like you are. One thing I would share with you though is that as a kid, I would have done anything - I mean ANYTHING - to make everything perfect so there wouldn't be anything for dad to get mad about. I wasn't really afraid of him, although sometimes if he'd lose control and choke me, he could get scary. I mostly wanted more time with him when he was happy, so I tried very hard to be perfect. I think it's the only natural response in a child - to want to please her father. As I got older, I would get really angry that he was screaming at me unjustly. I suppressed that anger because it would just make his rage worse. Today I deal with anger management issues of my own because I never really learned how to deal with it when I was younger.
And while that perfectionism has served me well in many areas of my life, I have always been an excellent student and I have been a successful entrepreneur in a field where women seldom succeed, it has made a mess of my relationships. It is hard on my marriage. My need for approval has left me open to predators. I've been afraid to have children of my own. And there's a part of me that never believes I will be good enough. So, some good things and some bad things. The bad probably outweigh the good. On the other hand, there really are people whose fathers were a lot worse. No parent is ever perfect. You do the best you can, no?
So, you know, don't leave. Please don't leave your kids because God knows there are enough fatherless children in the world and it sounds like you can trust your wife to help you protect your kids from the worst of it. I never wanted my dad to leave us. I just wanted to spend more time with the calm version of him. I wanted him to be someone I could bring problems to, someone who could give me advice and teach me how to be a good person. I think if you're aware of the impact your temper can have on your kids, you can better protect them from it.
I didn't notice how old you are, but I know that my dad got calmer as he got older. I left home at 18, so I didn't get to see it happen. But by the time we re-established our relationship a few years ago, he'd mellowed. He says now that he can't remember what was so important that he used to get so mad about. I don't know if they told you that in your anger management classes, but getting older does help some people. And I don't think you are a monster. I never thought my dad was a monster. And I guarantee you that most of the time your boys think you're a superhero.