Anger Management Support Group

Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.

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my problem is that when me and my wife argue sometims i get so upset that its like a switch goes off in my head. like the other day we had a arguement and she said something and automatically i lose it,my brain shuts down and alli can see is red. i say hrtful things and totally shut down. sometimes i need to get away for a couple of minutes and regroup. any advice on how not to switch aoutmatically into defense mode and shuit down
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yes...why are you angry with her? what does she say to trigger you? do you feel attacked? do you feel like she is insulting you? sometimes that happens with me and my husband and he will just blow off like a volcano...and it really scares me and the things he says hurts me to the core...the other day i asked him to do something...he shrugged it off and started making sarcastic remarks..i told him he sounded like his dad....well, that set him off and he didn't even talk to me for 4 hours, but then when he did talk to me he just yelled at me for insulting him and was on the defense....i apologized for making the comment, but at least i know what triggered him....
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I am very similar in terms of my angy and relationship with my wife. My wife has now agreed to give me time out and allow me to walk away when she see's I am not coping with the situation. The question is twofold:
Initially wheather you have the strengh or awareness at the point of red heat to walk away.
Secondly wheather the wife will let you without following you to continue the debate long after your brain has left the building.
Hope this is useful.
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you have to relize yourself...when you see yourself or feel that anger about to burst out your chest, stop what your doing. Dont think, just shut everything out, and for that split second think of what you are doing...go through it and find a better solution than just to have an outburst...
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hey--- THIS IS A GOOD THING I GOT FROM ANGER MGT. I HAVE A VERY SERIOUS TEMPER PROBLEM AND IT HELPED A LOT TO ACTUALLY PRIINT THIS UP AND HAVE MY EX AND I SIGN IT.


"I am committed to not tolerating hostility, violence, rejection or abandonment in my relationship with you. If you tell me that you feel intimidated or belittled by me I will stop speaking about you and let you leave the room to take a time out, or I will leave the room. If I leave then I will state a time that I will return to finish talking more respectfully about the problem . I will not prevent you from leaving the room, or continue to shame you if you say you're taking a 'time out'.
I seek progress and not perfection. If I cannot reasonably honor this time out commitment then I must admit that I am 'out of my own control' and will put more effort into changing by going to anger management classes, groups, religious counselors or individual therapy."

IF YOU CAN BOTH AGREE ON THIS IT HELPS, AND ALSO TRY "BLOCKING EXERCISES" WHICH YOU CAN FIND IN am BOOKS AT THE LIBRARY....


ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS TAKE 30 SECONDS, WHEN YOU FEEL IT COMING... YOU JUST HAVE TO WORK ON IT... IT HARD... ITS HARDER TO QUIT THAN COKE OR ALCOHOL, ILL TELL YOU THAT....


GOOD LUCK

DB
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