Anger Management Support Group
Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.
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There are various ways we could define control, some may disagree, but I'm not sure the concept is fully grasped when you finally realise that it's too late and you've already lost it.
We could say yes we have good control over anger and the situations around us as such, but is it that we're able to stave off the feelings somedays, and others we're just too tired so the "beast" hiding inside gets his shot to take over and we just let him run us on cruise...
There are those who could admit it easily saying, I by far have no control over myself I have a serious problem and there looks to be no hope.... I think either way we could be further from it....
I don't want to discourage by this but we have to think, let's say we gain more control over our ability to withstand mindlessness and things that would make anyone angry, or slightly pissed... well... what happens the next time?... when more keeps coming...? unfairly... more unfairness.... absurdity... usually what just isn't logical usually burns most of us.... things that just shouldn't happen.... perhaps someone is just truly trying to spite you... just because they have no life of their own they want to hurt you and they damn well do it....
What victory is gained when I merely say, "yes I have more control now", they should just say, "yes I can withstand more stones or whatever stupid crap now", and not allow yourself to become angry.... potentially harming your well being....
Guess the simple comparison.... If I could compare our brains "anger controlling mechanism" with containers of nitroglycerine (a volatile explosive liquid when damaged just a small degree), what's better... dealing with a small shot glass of nitroglycerine.... or a 10 gallon tank being dropped.... Yeah....
To be shorter... perhaps just letting yourself get angry and burning it off in whatever way (hopefully safely), probably is better than gaining "control" by upping your stance against those things that make you angry.... submitting and losing a little control in order to maintain a better grasp upon your psyche as a whole....
Thank you for your time and reading my bit... Take care and may a wave of calm wash over you like warm liquid stuff... heh... just to get you smilin' there...
-Fenrys
There are various ways we could define control, some may disagree, but I'm not sure the concept is fully grasped when you finally realise that it's too late and you've already lost it.
We could say yes we have good control over anger and the situations around us as such, but is it that we're able to stave off the feelings somedays, and others we're just too tired so the "beast" hiding inside gets his shot to take over and we just let him run us on cruise...
There are those who could admit it easily saying, I by far have no control over myself I have a serious problem and there looks to be no hope.... I think either way we could be further from it....
I don't want to discourage by this but we have to think, let's say we gain more control over our ability to withstand mindlessness and things that would make anyone angry, or slightly pissed... well... what happens the next time?... when more keeps coming...? unfairly... more unfairness.... absurdity... usually what just isn't logical usually burns most of us.... things that just shouldn't happen.... perhaps someone is just truly trying to spite you... just because they have no life of their own they want to hurt you and they damn well do it....
What victory is gained when I merely say, "yes I have more control now", they should just say, "yes I can withstand more stones or whatever stupid crap now", and not allow yourself to become angry.... potentially harming your well being....
Guess the simple comparison.... If I could compare our brains "anger controlling mechanism" with containers of nitroglycerine (a volatile explosive liquid when damaged just a small degree), what's better... dealing with a small shot glass of nitroglycerine.... or a 10 gallon tank being dropped.... Yeah....
To be shorter... perhaps just letting yourself get angry and burning it off in whatever way (hopefully safely), probably is better than gaining "control" by upping your stance against those things that make you angry.... submitting and losing a little control in order to maintain a better grasp upon your psyche as a whole....
Thank you for your time and reading my bit... Take care and may a wave of calm wash over you like warm liquid stuff... heh... just to get you smilin' there...
-Fenrys
bluesun
warm liquid stuff? like gravy??
bluesun
just kidding... makes a lot of sense. I feel that way a lot
deleted_user
for me, control is not a matter of suppressing anger... its a matter of controlling how i think about the things that used to bring rise to anger in me, keeping perspective and lengthening the fuse, disarming the mine field of the mind. And control is also a matter of controlling the reaction once anger has come upon the scene. It is possible to "be angry but sin not"... so controlling the response and not feeding the anger once it is present, but choosing to find a way to see the situation from a position that is not so egomaniacal.
deleted_user
Yeah - it's too bad that it is not necessarily feasible to address every single person who has ever done anything that makes me mad. I guess the key phrase is "makes me mad" - I could choose not to react angrily over something, And can something really make you mad, or do you choose to get mad? I really can't control whether I get mad about something or not, only how I react to it. And I CAN choose not to fester in the anger. I'm still working on all this stuff...I've been the queen of built-up anger and inappropriate displays of it, so dealing with it in a healthy way is still all so new to me.
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