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can vengance really solve anything?

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We have all thought of getting back at someone. But in some point in your mind, you see yourself doing what you want to do to that person. You get a sense of satisfaction...of making them feel what they made you felt. But in the end, would you really feel happy about yourself?
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I don't think so. Why would you want to be like someone you can't stand. Then how could you stand yourself? I just try to see it as their problem that they are childish and I want to be better than that. I want peace in my life. The kind of people who do you wrong aren't worth a second of your time. Think of all the other things you could be doing with your time than worrying about them.
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No, a lot of our hang-ups, anger, etc. are due to the things in us we don't like and transfer the feelings to some one else. that being said in the end revenge will end up hurting you more even if the temporary feeling is satisfaction. compassion is a much better path. it is said the best "revenge" is to live a good life.
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I agree totally with Gator - I would not even waste the mental energy fantasizing about stuff like that. It makes you an unhappy person and then who loses in the end?????
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The cliche adds that "they will get whats coming to 'em" but I can't say I wouldn't love to see it. LOL
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*sigh*......you guys!!!!!
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I often think about loving to see people who have hurt me get hurt, but it's never me that hurts them. I'd also like to think that what goes around, comes around, so someday good things will happen to me, and someday those people will get a taste of their own medicine.
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i think that our own wrath and anger can just be more destructive...so no i don't think vengeance is the answer. when i do try to get vengeance, i don't feel happy about myself, i just feel worse....and i usually do something stupid that i regret and feel guilty for....though, i think it's human nature to want the person that has hurt us to feel our pain....
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I know what you mean ....I'd like to see someone pay for the pain they have caused me. I believe it's wrong of me to feel that way, but I still feel that way. I think it's just using my energy focusing on that person. It's negative!
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mrcoffee, that's what I always say/think. Boy I'd like to see them fall!!! But really I don't believe everybody pays for what they've done. I hope I'm wrong, though.

I've often thought I sure must be pre-paying for something awful I'm going to do b/c I've had a lot of trauma thusfar and I try to be good ....really!!! lol
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I think that at the moment we would feel satisfaction but in the end i dont know if it would be a cure prob not. but your right about that place in your mind i have been there many times. I try to do things i am proud of.
SJB12
SJB12
The best revenge you can get on someone who has wronged you is to live well. Enjoy life and and live it to the fullest. Life is too short and the end comes all to soon, Peace
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I have gotten revenge and I have felt good about it is that terrible? I really don't know if that is normal or not.
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I read in an anger management book that it is detrimental to even think about revenge. It just feeds the anger. They said you should change your thoughts from something bad happening to them to something good happening for you.
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