Anger Management Support Group
Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.
The other night i went out with some friends, my boyfriend stayed home. I was fine until i got home and i just lost it on him. He has been battling his addiction for a while and its been taking its toll on me in so many ways. I freaked. I kicked him in the head punched him in the face and a few other things im not so proud of. I told him he couldnt hurt me any more and if he did hed be sorry, then i got so angry at myself i cut up my arm. Know i have this guilt that wont go away. I feel like when we fight i want to punch him in the head. I think ive learned from everything in my life to be defensive and defend myself. I didnt think it would get this bad but he brings out the worst in me. Our good times are amazing but it scares me when we fight cause i just get so angry, alot of the time i shoot my mouth off and say horrible things and I have no control over my anger. Its tiring... I dont know how to shut it off. Journaling only helps for a few minutes then i get angry again. I just want him to fix his stupid addiction and i get pissed cause he decided to develop it after having daughter together. I know i cant fix him but how do i control the anger. The last time really scared the shit out of me....
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
i think you both may be making each other worse
for instance, if when u came home from your night out and he was just sleeping in bed and u beat him then with him feeling upset or angry or what ever he will want to do his addiction even more and when he does u get angry and so its a viscous circle
if it is a bit like that i would recommend u both seperated until he dealt with what ever he is dealing with and it will also give u a chance to deal with your own emotions!
i have felt many a time (and acted out) like i wanted to hit my boyfriend but he threatened to leave me and that was a high enough rick for me to leave it but them i started hitting myslef so he still wasnt happy - but if a scare tactic would work on you maybe u should try and think like this
also if u do feel this anger and resentment towards him for everything he has put u through he might not be right for u and if u know this then u should leave it all how ever hard this maybe - u only get 1 life!! hoep this helps if u have any questions just let me know
my anger is now out of control and i hit him.
i would like to blame the alcohol which i had but its just not an excuse. this is the first step for me, reading other peoples stories is helping, i been calm now for nearly a week, feels like such an achievement. please feel free to add me and check out my journal.
im pushing through it, if i come across anything that helps me ill be sure to pass it on, please do the same as this is all new to me.
Is that the only thing that you get angry at?
As far as journaling, it doesn't work for everyone. Some people run, others walk, some take deep breaths and close their eys, others count to ten, still others find something they do that calms them down.
Ultimately, you can not control his life. I know you wish things were different. But beating him up is just wrong. When you see yourself getting angry enough to hit him, you need to remove yourself from the home. Otherwise the addict is not the problem, the angry person is. And you sound as though you don't want to be the problem.