I can understand that. I rage often, though I am learning to control it, and I feel so badly for my husband. He says he understands that I love him, but I feel terrible, just thinking of how it would feel if he was angry at me. I thnik your feelings are perfecty natural. No one likes to be the object of anger, and it is hard to beleive we are loved by that person in such a case...

yes, i know....i used to have rage issues, but i was on some meds that made me completely whacked.....am better now, but unfortunately i retaliate back with hurtful words because i am so hurt and angry...you know....

I think you need to keep in mind that anger, in many people's opinion, is just a manifestation of something else that is going on inside a person - fear, pain, sadness. And normally, it is not about you at all, but about some deeper issue that the person is struggling with. THat is not to say that we have a right to explode all over people, but for your own self, try not to take it personally. In fact, the opposite is usually true - we have a tendancy to take it out on the ones we love the MOST.

thanks....those are all good words....

I can't speak for anyone else but maybe my point of view is like what someone else thinks too. That is, when I am angry it's for whatever is going on at the moment. I don't think of it being connected to an emotion or feeling toward another person. Thinking more about it now, in fact it's more like not having any emotions at all. It's like instinct. So, love, hate, etc. have nothing to do with it. At least that's my idea of getting angry.

okay...but how many of you stay angry for days and take it out on people around you...like don't talk to them and treat them like you hate them?

> Beautyfor...says:
> okay...but how many of you
> stay angry for days and
> take it out on people
> around you...like don't
> talk to them and treat
> them like you hate them?

Ok, back to the orginal question ... Love comes and goes. Maybe at those times there is no love, so you are right. They don't have love at that time. All I can say is what is happening with me. I live with someone who always makes me angry. I say I hate him at times. But it's been on going for so long I don't know anymore. I just make the best of what I'm living with now. Tommorow, who knows? So any given moment things change. I just go through the motions. Don't know what I feel. I do my thing, he does his and we just live in the same house.
I guess what I'm saying is, there's no love. Just do things that make you happy and don't worry about it. Who cares if there's love or not?

i care if there's love...because with love there is respect....