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will he ever learn

deleted_user
deleted_user
one of my best friends doesnt make the smartest decisions. for his problems he often turns to alcohol and cigarettes. hes gotten arrested once for underage drinking and he still drinks. i just dont think he cares any more. i just wish he'd think more about what hes doing, what its doing to him and the people he cares about. will he ever change? will he ever learn?
starfish
starfish
He's still young, and he very well could still change. But it may take some time and a few hard knocks. Just be careful you don't get too close that you get wrapped up in it and get yourself hurt if he doesn't change.
Also, if you're too invested in him, you could wind up becoming an "enabler" and actually being part of the problem. It is difficult to keep a safe distance, but a lot less difficult than climbing out of the mess you'll get in if he doesn't change. Only time will tell.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have a 15 year old son that has a substance abuse problem too. Life has been very difficult for the last 14 months. He went to an intensive out patient program for 12 weeks. Spent two nights in inpatient & still continues to use.He now is going to AA & NA, getting individual counseling & is in complete lock down from participating in sports & especially from friends. Most substance abuse problems start at a young age & continue to grow until they bemome unmanageble.
The best thing for your friend is for his parents to become aware of his problem.Hopefully, they will care enough to get him some help.You could possibly end up saving his life! He is lucky to have you as a friend but, do be careful...don't get caught up in his path of destruction.
JoeTex
JoeTex
Perhaps someday he will change or he may lose control. I pray he changes
deleted_user
deleted_user
lol y r ppl still replying to 2 yr old posts its starting to bug me, and i usually dont get bugged that easily lol
deleted_user
deleted_user
Some may never change, the thing is what is it doing to you, you may want to check out alanon! Maybe even a CoDA meeting, but you can never change an alcoholic, until he truly wants to change.
WhooHoo
WhooHoo
I think Joe is working through a resentment.
nodp2day
nodp2day
THIS IS ALMOST 2 YEARS OLD
deleted_user
deleted_user
He'll never learn until he wants to. I'm sorry you and your friend are going through this.
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