One big problem is that are old drinking partners are not our true friend, they may be good friends, but they are missing you more than you are missing them.

I still have friends out there that I know would welcome me back, I can't blame them they are sick and in denial, they have not got to a rock bottom or they have no desire to stop taking.

They say this is a selfish programme and I am afrad it is, I have strict rules with my old buddies, they are welcome to see me, but woithout drink, some do from time ti time, normally when they are broke and in need of a meal, I don't mind this, maybe they will see how much my life is improving not drinking, whether they do or don't thats u to them, so long as my message is clear I DO NOT DRINK and I DO NOT WISH TO.

Stop beating yourself up, reach out for help, be it AA, your doctor or a self help group like ths.

Just don't give up giving up, many don't get it right to start with. But you must do something to romove you from temptation, you need to set new boundries with your old buddies, to hell that they think you will come back, make it 100% clear that is not what you want.

And you are going forward, we learn from our mistakes, you have not given up so you are far from going backwards.

Let me know when you reach 2 weeks sober this time and lets go from there

Thinking of you Good Luck

Trickey

I sure wish I could say something to help you honey, but I'm 47 and still doing the same thing to myself. All I can say is that I've learned from going to meetings that we have this thing wrong in our brains that make us unlike others and that's why we keep on doing things that are not good for ourselves. The only hope I can offer you, although I'm drinking right now, (have to be honest) is to at least try to go to some 12-step meetings and build a support group to help you through this.

When you get sick of it that is when change happens good luck to you.

simple answer is youre an alcoholic!!Im alcoholic!!Drinking for me made my life crap but it also made everyone elses life around me crap.I wanted change and the only way to do that was get drink out of the equasion.With drink came a lifestyle,with drink came friends.When you want to stop drinking your whole lifestyle has to change,your drinking friends???have to go!!!without doing this drink is still very much a part of the equasion and stopping drinking is going to be next to impossible to do...

just read my reply there and it may sound a little harsh..All im trying to say is that its not just about putting the drink down,theres other work involved in order to do that and be successfull..good luck

I soooo know what it is like....wanting to quit drinking so bad .....my alcoholism had me by the balls(I don't even have any...lol)....I couldn't make it past 2 weeks for about 6 months....i couldn't understand why I couldn't do this.....then one moning ...it was kinda like I bumped my head and decided I was sick and tired of being sick and tired.....
I like coming to ds because reading these posts and listening to what others go thru and how things have worked for them...(also AA and the 12 steps)....eventually it sinks into my thick skull.....
you know what you want......just keep coming back.....you will get it.....Take it easy on yourself and enjoy the days you have sober.....
After my last relapse...I was devestated...and I was talking to a man at a meeting.....and he said "you may have lost days but you have not lost all the knowledge you have gained and this will only make you stronger......"
Just keep coming back....

If you truly want to stop drinking and using. You first have to change the way you think. Change Old playmates and old playgrounds. And get into work of the recovery program outlined in the Big Book of AA. Remember it take what it take. And keep it real simple. Good Luck to you.

Why ARE you still on such a self destructive path? Only you can answer this for yourself. And I'm sorry honey, you don't sound like you were a week and a half sober if you're right back elbow to elbow w/your drinking pals at the first invite (a week DRY perhaps, sober, no).
Weren't you making plans to go away to formal treatment a while back? What happened there?
In the meantime, as they say, keep coming back, but it only works if YOU work it!!!!