Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
Hi.
I just met the man of my dreams. Or so I thought. He promises me every morning that he loves me, and he promises me every evening that he doesn't. When I get ready to leave he promises he will be better, and he is, at first, but then he will have a bad night. Those bad nights feel like days, when sleep seems the only escape but flees at each of my attempts. These nights he cannot be with me, but he cannot be without me, and all I want is for him to snap out of it 'boom' he's himself again- that doesn't happen though, and I can't make it happen with the snap of my fingers, I can't do ANYTHING. An example would be how he's just walked into the room and called me the biggest slut in the world, said I was the wrong age for him, told me to leave. He doesn't mean those things, he'll tell me tomorrow, because he's the only man I've been with, and we're fine ages, and tomorrow he'll want me to stay. Now though, I feel like I just want to die, I've built my life around him, but not this him, the good him. He is both Dr Jekyl and Mr Hyde, but he is mine and I don't want to leave him, and he knows hes an alcoholic but has no impetus to change, even though I've tried all I know how to do.
Please help me, please will somebody who's been in his shoes tell me what I need to say to make him change?
Thanks.
I just met the man of my dreams. Or so I thought. He promises me every morning that he loves me, and he promises me every evening that he doesn't. When I get ready to leave he promises he will be better, and he is, at first, but then he will have a bad night. Those bad nights feel like days, when sleep seems the only escape but flees at each of my attempts. These nights he cannot be with me, but he cannot be without me, and all I want is for him to snap out of it 'boom' he's himself again- that doesn't happen though, and I can't make it happen with the snap of my fingers, I can't do ANYTHING. An example would be how he's just walked into the room and called me the biggest slut in the world, said I was the wrong age for him, told me to leave. He doesn't mean those things, he'll tell me tomorrow, because he's the only man I've been with, and we're fine ages, and tomorrow he'll want me to stay. Now though, I feel like I just want to die, I've built my life around him, but not this him, the good him. He is both Dr Jekyl and Mr Hyde, but he is mine and I don't want to leave him, and he knows hes an alcoholic but has no impetus to change, even though I've tried all I know how to do.
Please help me, please will somebody who's been in his shoes tell me what I need to say to make him change?
Thanks.
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Tk a very loud one ,i was there for him twicebut the last time i had to let go for my own sanity ,in the end i had to allow him to have his own rockbottom ,because the more i was around him the more could feel his pain
and i canot do that and i cannot make him sober ,or make him change he has to want to do it for his self
i have been sober myself for 22 yrs and i go to aa [my life line] today we are together he has remained sober for 3 yrs
nothing to do with me but because he so wants to help him self remember we can not do for others what they can not do for themselves .have you tried alinon to help you ,take care xx