Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
Selfishness and self-centeredness that we think is the root of our trouble.
Whether that root be some THING that happened, the beginning of a mental health issue, or stepping over the line from "socially" drinking/using into addiction there is always a root cause. From the those two things come every manner of phobia, resentment/anger, feelings of abandonment, the need to isolate, depression, anxiety, even self harm. Any one of us can add to that list. The key to relief is to look at all these words and understand that we have built a wall, shaped masks, chameleon like with a desire to fit in and changing our mask to fit those we are with at the time or removing ourselves completely from life itself. We lose our sense of being. There is the world and there is us... individuals. We can see the world but we are separated from it by this wall one might call ego. This ego is a conscious separation from the world. Protection if you will, set there to protect but has ended up with us being imprisoned by a state of misery. (Borrowed thought from "A New Pair of Glasses" by Chuck C.)
It is like an onion. The onion starts from a seed and as it grows the layers become thicker and the outer layers grow a skin that is hard to cut. If you cut that onion from top to bottom what you find is no longer a seed but a heart. The heart is surrounded by all the layers. We have to peel the onion, cut away the "walls" in order to reveal the heart. Cutting an onion can be quite painful. It smells and brings tears to the eyes. You take the cuttings throw them into a pain... apply heat... that same onion becomes sweet and the aroma (to me) is wonderful.
I have seen a number of people lately who are struggling with the idea of sobriety. Underneath it all and as I read more I can see they are not so much trying to deal with alcohol but the bricks in the wall. Things they don't have to face when under the spell of their drug of choice. I can give testimony as can many here that though busting down the wall can be tiresome, peeling the onion uncomfortable the result is to find your heart and being able to rejoin the world.
If I am the onion I am ill equipped to cut into myself, or that wall has become so high and so strong I haven't the strength to tear it down with just myself then I am doomed to fail should I try. It is by asking for help and following the instructions offered that I can become a part of and not apart from. Whether it be a support group such as AA or a therapist follow the directions offered. Do not deviate or try to change what works. Become a winner. Become victorious.
Whether that root be some THING that happened, the beginning of a mental health issue, or stepping over the line from "socially" drinking/using into addiction there is always a root cause. From the those two things come every manner of phobia, resentment/anger, feelings of abandonment, the need to isolate, depression, anxiety, even self harm. Any one of us can add to that list. The key to relief is to look at all these words and understand that we have built a wall, shaped masks, chameleon like with a desire to fit in and changing our mask to fit those we are with at the time or removing ourselves completely from life itself. We lose our sense of being. There is the world and there is us... individuals. We can see the world but we are separated from it by this wall one might call ego. This ego is a conscious separation from the world. Protection if you will, set there to protect but has ended up with us being imprisoned by a state of misery. (Borrowed thought from "A New Pair of Glasses" by Chuck C.)
It is like an onion. The onion starts from a seed and as it grows the layers become thicker and the outer layers grow a skin that is hard to cut. If you cut that onion from top to bottom what you find is no longer a seed but a heart. The heart is surrounded by all the layers. We have to peel the onion, cut away the "walls" in order to reveal the heart. Cutting an onion can be quite painful. It smells and brings tears to the eyes. You take the cuttings throw them into a pain... apply heat... that same onion becomes sweet and the aroma (to me) is wonderful.
I have seen a number of people lately who are struggling with the idea of sobriety. Underneath it all and as I read more I can see they are not so much trying to deal with alcohol but the bricks in the wall. Things they don't have to face when under the spell of their drug of choice. I can give testimony as can many here that though busting down the wall can be tiresome, peeling the onion uncomfortable the result is to find your heart and being able to rejoin the world.
If I am the onion I am ill equipped to cut into myself, or that wall has become so high and so strong I haven't the strength to tear it down with just myself then I am doomed to fail should I try. It is by asking for help and following the instructions offered that I can become a part of and not apart from. Whether it be a support group such as AA or a therapist follow the directions offered. Do not deviate or try to change what works. Become a winner. Become victorious.
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I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????
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A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...
That is why, for me, even if I had been able to stop drinking without a program of change it would not have worked.
I have done, and continue to do, a huge amount of work through the 12 step program and therapy.
Sometimes it is hugely painful to take away a layer and I feel raw and vulnerable.
But the tools and the power that I now have enable me to have the courage to do it and to know that I am becoming closer to the person I can be and am continually improving my practice of a spiritual life. Thus moving away from the selfishness and self-centredness and resulting fear and dysfunction which caused so many problems in the first place.