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My 17 year old son had a blood alcohol level of .246 this past Thursday. I had him at the hospital and realize he could have died. I lost his brother (18) 2 years ago in a motorcycle accident. I can't lost another child!!!!!!
I had him involuntarily committed on Friday to a 90 day program. My son is making me feel SO guilty about this! His drinking like this was not the first time and he needs help.
Can anyone tell me if or why it is better to have him in for 90 days? He says he willingly will do a 28-30 day program but beyond that I am being unreasonable, ruining his summer, and the beginning of his senior year. I need to know more about all of this... please help!!!!
Note: Father is also an alcoholic (3 years sober after 30 years of drinking)
I had him involuntarily committed on Friday to a 90 day program. My son is making me feel SO guilty about this! His drinking like this was not the first time and he needs help.
Can anyone tell me if or why it is better to have him in for 90 days? He says he willingly will do a 28-30 day program but beyond that I am being unreasonable, ruining his summer, and the beginning of his senior year. I need to know more about all of this... please help!!!!
Note: Father is also an alcoholic (3 years sober after 30 years of drinking)
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There really isn't anything a person can do to make their children, spouses, and loved ones want to want to be sober. Nothing! If there was it would have been capitalized on a long time ago. Many people die before a few get sober. It is a very sad fact.
Your love, hope, courage, faith, God, religion, forced incarcerations will not make him want to want to be sober. Only he can do that. He has to reach a point that he wants to get and be sober.
You can help him with that though. How? By not bailing him out. By not being a codependant to his drinking...in other words make him call his own boss if he is to hungover to go to work. Or make him bail himself out of jail, or pay his own rent when he drank up all the money.
You can also use this experience to open up a whole new avenue of talking with your son. You can always ask him directly about his drinking and going to AA meetings. You can always give him a ration of crap when he is screwing up. You can always give him hell, just to save his life.
You can also pray. My mother was great at praying for me when I needed it and it always worked. Scares me to death actually, but here I am clean and sober.
If the police want to arrest him or don't talk them into doing that. It will force him to go to certain meetings and maybe even a therapist. Let him sleep in his own bed, even if it is full of puke, piss, and whatever.
As for the question of 90-days involuntary versus 30-days voluntary, that is something you need to discuss with the counselors. It concerns me that this has been his behavior after losing his brother 2 years ago, he might need to get to the bottom of some issues.
Make sure whatever your decision is, that it's an informed decision based on what the professionals say, not on what your 17 year old wants for his summer; because this decision might be the difference between him having half a summer and a short life or no summer and a long life. What does his recovering alcoholic father think of this?
Good Luck with this.
Good Luck
Thanks again!
We will pray for you, his age isn't the reason he may not get sober. I know several people who got sober at that age and younger. Their lives are wonderful now and they are only 24, 25.
Just keep giving him a hard time, you don't have to accept his behavior ever.
Good luck and keep us posted!!
REALLY want to thank all of you for being here. I have gotten some really good comments and messages. Thank God when there is trouble there are people like all of you to talk to!
HUGS to you!