Hi

100 days, 100 very early days, a little over 3 months.

If your partner drank a lot, then he is going through huge adjustments, and he may also be feeling lots of remorse from his past.

I will say that it took a good year for me to get back to any sort of normality (AS I NEVER KNEW IT), even now at 2 years my outlook on life keeps changing in a positive way.

When I first became sober, I was obsessed with staying sober, I had to be, now it does not take so much of my time, but to stay sober I must give it some of my time, this after all is a life long thing, we do not find miracle cures, we have to keep firmly in our recovery or we may lose it.

Will it get any better, I can only tell you from my own experieces it has, so you will have to try and make what you can from that.

Another thing that might be good for you is Al Anon, but its something that I know very little about, and I would therefore others advise you on this.

Seems like you have been on a bit of a Rollercoaster, try and hang on, it may turn out top be the best ride of your life, I do hope so

Trickey

If you go to marriage counseling and maybe alanon things will get better.

You may want to read about lois wilson also.She is the founder of alanon, and there is alot on the net about her story. take care.

click on this link for all the answers you wil lneed if your spouse is an alcoholic>>>
www.alanon.org

God Bless
botbotcoco

I am sure that you have many Alanon meetings in Oregon. These meetings are for the very pupose of helping the spouse of an alcoholic. Things definitely change when an alcoholic gets sober and you need help in understanding the dynamics of those changes. Alanon teaches you how to communicate with your husband in a very new and much better way. Good luck.

Read, "To the wives" in your hubbies "big book'. It explains a lot, and hopefully you will find some comfort.

Hi, my spouse who is also an alcoholic dry at this point is having issues with me being in early recovory and my obsession with the meetings, new lifestyle, and he feels alone. I almost hear his words in your writings. I can relate that maybe, you didnt sign up for this.. I grew up and my mother was in Alanon seems helpful for those dealing with alcoholic spouses giving them/you special friendships of your own to turn to share these concerns. Making you realize it doesnt always have to be about the Alcoholic and forgetting about you.

My sponsor suggested to read the family afterward. It helped me. Our families arent interested in our words but more in our actions that we have changed. My attitude has had to change and grow toward what God would have me act toward my family. What alos helps is the 9th step prayers done daily they are from pg 83. My alcoholism did alot to harm my family and I will spend a life time making amends to them but hey thats living amends. I agreed to completely do the steps when i got here this time so it is a neat journey to be on. Also being a sponsor helps to having sponsee's to help helped me grow with practicing these principles at hoem also.